Does DP still love me?

[LoopyLee]

Hi girls,

This is only the 2nd time I,ve ever posted on here but really need some advice. I'll pre-warn you that this could be long.

I,ve been with DP for 3yrs, we have 1 DS & expecting 2nd in July. DP is younger than me & in the Navy. We used to have a strong relationship but lately things have been different. DP chooses to go out alot with his mates & is being abit cagey with his mobile.

Sorry, problems with internet, anyway, where was I...

He hardly speaks to me & pays me very little attention, lounging on the sofa, while I run round after DS. I just have this feeling that he is only with me out of duty to DS & would really rather be single.

Am I being silly, is this just PG hormones or is my relationship reaching its end. DP has kissed another girl before when DS was 4 mths old but we worked through it & things were fine until recently. Feel really low about this & just want my DP back to the way he used to be, attentive, loving & caring. Help!

You are not being silly. It's the way you feel and you should never believe or let others make you believe that your feelings are silly! You feel you are not geting what you need - reassurance and demonstrations of love and affection, and it's 100% normal that you are upset by that.

But you know what i am going to say don't you? talk to him. Nobody here can tell you whether your dp loves you - only he can answer that. And he isn't psychic, he needs you to tell him how you are feeling and to be given the chance to tell you how he is feeling.

You sound suspicious that something may be going on, i would say make time to sit together and talk. calmly. just tell him how you feel. use I, not You - eg "I feel low", not "You dont love me". start by telling him how you feel about him maybe and asking him how he feels your relationshop is at the moment. Tell him that you would love to do more as a family (avoid you never help with the kid/s) you would love him to develop a stronger bond with his son etc etc.

maybe even ask him if he is happy - say you are worried about him because he seems to be isolating himself from his family.

i guess all i am saying in a waffly way is talk to him and tell him your feelings, thats the only way to get your answer. xxxxxxx

This sounds similar to me!

I am pregnant, due August, I have always had a really strong relationship with my husband but just over the last few weeks - (started around week 22) I have been getting extremely paranoid about him wanting to be with someone else and not fancying me or wanting to be with me anymore.

These feelings have come completely out of the blue so I am putting them down to the pregnancy and my changing body.

I decided to have a chat about this with my husband and he says "Don't be silly" blah, blah but I still can't shake these feelings and keep having dreams where he runs off!

It maybe all the hormones bringing these feelings on and thinking about all the points like being cagey with his mobile etc a bit to much and starting to get paranoid.

You do need to have a chat with him and see how you feel afterwards!

Hope it goes ok!

Thanks for the advice girls, spoke to DP last nite after coming off here & he reassured me that he does still love me & that he has just been under alot of pressure at work & has actually been worrying alot about me & how I'm coping (having a very difficult pg this time around). Have both decided to make more effort to spend time together, starting with a wkend away this wkend! Result! Feel so much better now.