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Priorities

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Edenfalls · 23/04/2006 20:58

I posted a couple of days ago about my partners embarrasing money habits, in that post I also pointed out that we're supposed to be moving in together at some point but he has to prove first that he can prioritise money properly, pay his debts off and save up.

Currently he works for a well known chain selling car parts (dont want to be TOO obvious!)...they treat him like an idiot, he is paid less that all the other lads that work there and he does a job that he isnt supposed to be doing according to his contract but doesnt get paid for doing so. He's on minimum wage and apart from all this he is expected to work every bank holiday and they swap and change his days off whenever they feel like it.

Anyway, he decided that he would become a bus-driver for the better rate of pay and just to 'better himself' a little. I thought this was going to be one step closer to us living together however it was last mentioned a few months ago.

I have just asked him whether he is still going in for it and he said "no, Im staying where I am now so that I can get my car parts cheaper...." Angry

Am I right to be pissed off here? he never actually said that they bus thing was going to help our living together future but is he not thinking about it at all???

I dont know why I bother Angry

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Caligula · 23/04/2006 21:05

Edenfalls, if he's the bloke on a thread I read a couple of days ago who keeps making stupid remarks about being poor (is that the one) I don't know why you bother either!

It sounds to me like he is a complete no-hoper and if you stayed with him, you would never have an equal partner, you would always be carrying him.

Sorry, I know that's harsh.

bramblina · 23/04/2006 21:09

I think it sounds as if he won't change and you will always be the one to carry him, sounds like a life time of hard work, sorry Sad

sosickoftheweed · 23/04/2006 21:10

EdenFall
Im really sorry but the title of your thread says it all

you are not his priority. Moving in with you as an equal partner is not his priority,
He himself, his care, his life, is all he is interested in.

he is a selfish selfish man and you can do MUCH better,

Dump him and move on

Edenfalls · 23/04/2006 21:28

He's just said to me:

"Im sick of seeing things I want to buy, Im skint until friday when I get paid but Ill be skint by monday then anyway..."

I asked why and he said

"cos Ill be buying my shockers, a wheel hub and a rear beam for the car so that's the best part of half my pay gone in one fell swoop"

Angry

He then went on the tell me all the other stuff he needs for the car after that.

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