I'm 58 and have been married for 33 years. We have 4 children as well as 4 grand-children. The trouble is that over the last 5 years my husband has almost completely lost all interest in sex - we now make love perhaps 2 - 3 times a year. Well, it tends to be more like a quick grope over in a few minutes, which leaves me completely unsatisfied. We used to have a very tactile, loving relationship which just suddenly stopped - it wasn't a gradual process. We currently have quite a 'polite' relationship, living together more like brother and sister than man and wife. He works hard, at times obsessively and travels quite a bit with his work. He suffered from a long illness which resulted in bouts of impotence; nevertheless we got through it and during this period I was very patient and forbearing.
So it hurts somewhat that he refuses to talk about our practically non-existent love-life, just saying that he's getting on with life and what am I bothered
about. I look after myself, am slim and other men still find me attractive. I feel neglected, unattractive and unloved and don't know what to do.
Any advice gratefully received.