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Does he like me or is he being friendly?

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igloo · 24/01/2013 09:43

For a few weeks I've noticed my sons teacher being quite friendly towards me. He's quite a friendly person towards most people but I always had the sense that he was leaning in towards me when I had to discuss anything with him. At the end of last term he called me from his personal cellphone to thank me for volunteering to go on a school trip (he had asked for parent volunteers) and to invite me to come along. I thought something serious must have happened at school to warrant a phone call at home from a teacher but no, just an invite to the trip. I later found out that he had promised to call another parent to let her know if she was needed on the trip and he didn't bother to call her.
On the trip, he was fairly cordial but he did come over to me a few times to make small talk and ask about my plans for Christmas. He also touched me in the small of my back whilst I was crossing a road.
This term, he has been just as friendly but now when I speak to him about school related issues, as I walk away when the brief conversation has ended he has called after me, "what did you do at the weekend?" or "what are your plans for today?".
I can't decide whether he likes me or its normal for a teacher to be friendly and cordial with parents. He stands very close to me when we talk. 5inches away from my face sometimes( he doesn't do this with other parents or staff) and he makes eye contact quite a bit.
My concern is that I think he may have a girlfriend although he hasn't mentioned one to the kids since September. It's all very awkward. Especially as he teaches my son.
Is he being friendly or is there more to it?
BTW I'm a single parent.

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 24/01/2013 09:51

Are you comfortable with him invading your personal space? Do you want it to be more than friendly?

Anniegetyourgun · 24/01/2013 11:23

Why would he mention a girlfriend to the children he teaches? Hmm

ArtsMumma · 24/01/2013 11:30

I think he's being more than friendly, but he's trying to do it gently rather than being in your face with it and coming on too strong. If he is single, then this is fine. You would have to think very seriously about getting involved with your child's teacher but I know someone who was in a similar situation, went out with the teacher for a few months, kept it quite casual and didn't really make the relationship known to her daughter until the following school year when she was in a different class. Until then, the daughter was aware they were friends and that was all. They are very happy together, in fact she is moving in with him soon with her daughter who he is planning to adopt. Just to show you that it isnt a no-go area.

dequoisagitil · 24/01/2013 11:33

I think you're reading way way in. And if you're going to put the moves on him, wait until your child is in another class.

FollicallyEnhancedFreak · 24/01/2013 11:57

Didn't we do this 2 weeks ago?!

What is with the male primary school teacher obsession on MN at the minute? Grin

IME (horribly, painfully recent experience I might add) keep well away... And then get further away... and don't join the PTA.

Numberlock · 24/01/2013 12:00

It's making me cringe just reading about him...

However, if you like him and would like to go on a date with him, you've got his mobile number...

igloo · 24/01/2013 12:59

Thank you for letting me know. I've been concerned that it wasn't ethical.
I don't want things to get difficult for my son. Maybe things will be different next academic year. I wouldn't want any of the parents or staff finding out.

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