Signs someone is interested in you?

[mintyminty]

Firstly I should say that I'm married for 10 years, happyish, one dc, early 40s, settled in life, works, etc.

What signs/hints would you say are an indication that someone is attracted to you, or "interested" in you?

A long time work colleague of mine has been acting a bit differently with me over the past months. I have no interest/intention of doing anything, but would be interested to know that someone other than DH found me attractive, a mixture of vanity and curiosity on my side I guess (I dont find him physically attractive, but like his company)

I dont find him physically attractive, but like his company ... That comment relates to work colleague, rather than DH (actually it applies to both maybe?)

Oh give over!

Be honest with yourself about this, even if you can't be honest on an anonymous forum. You are interested in doing something, even if you're adamant now that you wouldn't turn daydreams into reality.

The only reason you're even giving this long-time colleague headspace is because you think he might be attracted to you. If you continue to indulge this, you'll be shocked at how a previously physically unattractive man suddenly morphs into sex-on-legs, simply because he fancies you.

If you don't find your husband physically attractive, then try to work on that as a couple or make a different decision about your marriage. But please recognise this thing with the colleague for what it is. If he hadn't changed around you recently, you wouldn't be even thinking about him in that way.

^you'll be shocked at how a previously physically unattractive man suddenly morphs into sex-on-legs, simply because he fancies you@

[grin]@Charbon ... and ain't that the truth.

Add the fact that your opinion of Mr soon-to-be Sex-on-Legs would seem to be interchangeable with the one you hold of your dh, and pretty soon you'll be calling your dh by Mr Legs' christian name - o what fun that will be.

Tread carefully. I take it that by posting on here you wanted to hear wise words such as those above?
Otherwise you could have just googled "signs that someone fancies you" or summat. (Most of us know these signs anyway, don't we?)

You are seeking validation from, and giving headspace to, someone outside of your (presumably monogamous) marriage.

Try focussing on your marriage without this distraction, otherwise you could be on the slippery slope to an emotional affair (or more).

The problem is that if you now determine that this man fancies you - as opposed to just being friendly - it changes the dynamic and that can get awkward in a workplace. If you've no interest in this man, therefore, stop looking for 'signs' and just treat him the same as any other colleague.