how long does it take to fall in love?

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Just wondering what other's experience is. I mean get to the stage where you love someone rather than the lust/infatuation bit :). Do you think that men take longer than women? (I know that everyone is different :) ). I think that it takes me about 3 months.

well i'll probably get flamed for this but it took less than a week for me and my fiance! And were not silly teenagers, were early 50s! lol. People say its not possible, and before it happened to me I probably would have agreed.
He proposed to me a week after we first met in person and I accepted. We are very happy and getting married this May.

I am divorced now but 25 years ago when I met exdh I was in love with him before the first date, it lasted 18 years, we had 3 children and we are still friends now x

It's taken me about 6-8 weeks! :-)

I worked for a woman who got married to her husband after a week. They've been married well over forty years now.

I'm with you, OP. I think you need to KNOW someone reasonably intimately (and I don't necessarily mean sexually) before you can be in love with them. So it obviously depends to a certain extent on how much time you spend with them. I would think 3 months or so is reasonable. Before that, yes, you might decide you're 'in love' - and clearly for some people it remained so, but I can't imagine how you can truly 'love' someone before the first date. (Or even after the first date). You simply don't know them fully. So yes, you may be 'in love' with the person they are in your head - but they may well turn out NOT to be that person at all when you get to know them properly.