Anyone feel that evryone they fancy is taken and everyone who fancies them is meh?

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I do feel that everyone who I fancy is not interested or taken. I have one or two lads who seem interested but then go cool when I reciprocate only for me to find that they have partners.
Is it too much to ask for someone there is a mutual attraction who is actually free?
Also I just wanted to ask if anyone had someone who had got away in their past and they can't find anyone whpo quite measures up? Sometimes I feel that I am dating to escape from the pain that I can't be with who I love.

Did he get away because his eardrums couldn't take any more of your megadecibel bellowing during the act?

Having read your contribution to the online dating thread, honey, it seems to me you might just as well hang a red light outside your front door and make a bit of tax free on the side stand ready to shag receive all comers callers.

Inviting men you know only from their lies profiles on od sites to 'come round for a bottle of wine' without having met them in a neutral place and checked them out first?

Not the first time, I'm asking where are your dc while you're entertaining the troops?

Izzy; you sound like a lovely supportive person . That topic was from an old (ish) thread. Move on and stop trying to derail/bully/make me out to be a slag coz I had a shag recently. And FWIW I only have people over when dd is at a sleepover. Also FWIW that shag was the first one for 6 months and before then I had a few serious dps so I suggets you take your bullying tactics elsewhere coz I aint moving.

Anyone else who has something useful to say know what I mean?

Also the guy I was with is someone I have known from the pub for a couple of years now and NOT a stranger from a dating site.

Meeeooww! Blimey Izzy!

I think you need to broaden your social horizons. I've read a few of your threads and I'm not going to criticize your (ahem) bedroom style but it strikes me that you are just sort of latching on to whats available or what blows through the door. Have you made a sort or cosmic shopping list about what you want and really focussed on making it happen. IME if you live in a really big city you can have affairettes and liaisons and it doesn't make a difference to anything but if you live somewhere small then people find out your business and, rightly or wrongly, it can affect meeting the person of your dreams.

Also, whats going on with you - apart from meeting chaps and all that - hows life in general? Would just getting some new stuff going on take the focus off men for a bit?

I dooo need to broaden my horizons it's true. I am a big city girl at heart trapped in a small town but am currently applying for jobs in London so that may change. I am a little bit smitten with someone from work but he is taken so am trying to distract myself. gah.

I do really like the sound of the cosmic shopping list. Will compile.

Harsh Izzy

Tbh OP if you're dating to try and escape the pain of loving someone else then if course it's going to be a bit meh. you'll always be comparing - either consciously or subconsciously - men to the one that you're in love with and they most likely wont live up to him - especially with rose tinted glasses.

I always find the advice that the best way of getting over someone is to get under someone else a load of bollocks. Concentrate on getting over this man you're still in love with before trying to find another.

Don't dip your pen in the office ink - seriously :)

you sound like a lovely supportive person You sure have got me pegged, honey

Wrt 'harsh', I believe 'honest' is a more appropriate adjective but I'm content to let history be my judge and, more particularly, the annal relating to the year of our lord 2013 which contains the 'old-ish' thread(s) on which, together with this one, I've formed my present opinion.

Fair enough Izzy - I haven't read the previous posts so can't comment. You offer sensible and valuable advice on the relationships board so will trust your judgement

You've missed out Faff and I thank you for the compliment

There is another word beginning with 'h', namely humorous, that would serve equally as well as 'honest' because, frankly, when reading the OP's various accounts of her love life, if I wasn't able to see the funny side I'd be in tears of despair that she's willing to settle for so little and finds cause to boast about it.