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Is this my fault?

16 replies

irishmum · 22/04/2006 15:35

Just had a phone call from my dp,to say our dd (2)
has just put nail varnish in her eye,if I hadn't left it at my a*e it wouldn't have fkin happened!!!This is so out of character,am at work and in tears.I phoned back to see if she's ok,and he called me a w*ker and hung up!
Feel like not going home,but going out with friends,can't be bothered going home for a fight!
What do I do?

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LadySherlockofLGJ · 22/04/2006 15:38

Is he normally like that or is he just very upset ??

dejags · 22/04/2006 15:39

Thats horrific irishmum.

He should have been watching her. It is is his responsibility to ensure that she is safe and he'd have needed to turn his back for more than a few minutes while she negotiated the nailpolish cap, got it off etc.

I think he's the w@nker to be perfectly honest.

fransmom · 22/04/2006 15:40

did he take her to doctors? Shock how could he talk to you like that? he was supposed to be looking after her while you were at work ffs

suzywong · 22/04/2006 15:40

left it at your arse? what on earth is he on about.
Just ignore it and don't rise to it, there's ogoing to be a hundred and one other things she'll fall off/swallow/poke in her eye before she's 18 and he'd better learn to deal with it

CHICagoMUM · 22/04/2006 15:41

Does he alawys talk to you in this way? Shock Also was dd in earshot. What on earth is that going to make her think?

Aimsmum · 22/04/2006 15:42

I don't think it is your fault, you are out and he is responsible for looking after her.

Could it just be that he got a fright or is upset and acting like this!?

If it makes you feel any better my DD put nailpolish in her eye not that long ago (to make herself look fancy!!!) and apart from the initial pain and an eyewash at the Drs, she had some cream to use for a few days, she was perfectly fine.....and i know she will never do it again!!

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irishmum · 22/04/2006 16:04

He's never talked to me like that before,he's since sent me a text to say sorry for shouting,the varnish was just on her eyelashes,I'm so wound up I can't reply to him!
He was out last night,but didn't seem to have a hangover,maybe there's someone else?S**t my mind is in over drive!

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LadySherlockofLGJ · 22/04/2006 16:04

Maybe he didn't drink that much.

collision · 22/04/2006 16:06

He probably panicked cos he knew he should have been watching her and was watching TV instead!

he also prob thought she has blinded herself. It is always easier to lash out and blame someone else and I am sure he will eat humble pie when you get home.

collision · 22/04/2006 16:07

'maybe there is someone else'?????????

Think you may be taking things out of perspective. He just freaked out.

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irishmum · 22/04/2006 16:09

lol lgj! but doubtfull,probably still pleasently pissed!
Having alot of him saying 'I feel like I can't touch you anymore',my reply is that only time he touches me it's sexual!!!No kisses hugs etc,anyway a whole other story...
Thanks for you support mners..

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irishskifiend · 22/04/2006 17:05

nope not your fault, however if this was my DH it would be may fault for leaving him in charge of children with a hangover Grin which I do deliberately sometimes

on the other part have just been through a patch where I couldn't let DH touch me as it always felt sexual not loving, he thought I had someone else and felt he couldn't touch me, lots of talking later we have sorted it out.

long story short, I got called a nympho the other night as he only wanted to kiss and cuddle !

irishskifiend · 22/04/2006 17:05

nope not your fault, however if this was my DH it would be may fault for leaving him in charge of children with a hangover Grin which I do deliberately sometimes

on the other part have just been through a patch where I couldn't let DH touch me as it always felt sexual not loving, he thought I had someone else and felt he couldn't touch me, lots of talking later we have sorted it out.

long story short, I got called a nympho the other night as he only wanted to kiss and cuddle !

supakids · 22/04/2006 17:08

~Go home, he will only blame you for not taking care of dd or caring. dd needs you too if he is acting a little strange. He will probably of calmed down and feel a right prune (but not admit it) by the time you get in.

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