Apparently DC3 is going to split us up...

[Kyrptonite]

Found out on Tuesday I'm pregnant. DS is almost 4, DD is 2.7 and DSD will be 6 soon. I told DP and he said I knew what I needed to do and it wasn't worth having a conversation about. My response was that I was keeping the baby.

He said he would move out then. Our lives are just getting to the point where we can go out and do things and he doesn't see why I want to put us backwards again. I had a termination last year and 2 days later he told me to buck up and stop dwelling on it. We haven't mentioned it since but have used condoms ever since.

I think I'm about 7 weeks, I have a job that was fixed term contract but now as I'm entitled to mat leave will be made permanent as there has to he a position for me to return to. I get 6 months SMP and there will be a lot of nurseries or CMs nearby.

I've told him to let me know when he's moving out. Honestly I think he will come round as this happened with DD and now he adores her. He just panicks and can't verbalise it easily.

Do I attempt to talk to him or just carry on as normal and see if he moves out or not? I don't want to beg him to be involved or seem weak and I will not let him bully me into another termination.

Not too sure why I'm posting. Just need to write it down I think!

What a creep. You will be fine without him, in fact your life will be far batter without him. Sorry you are going through this, it is exhausting being the strong one.

Because various of my friends have unwelcome side effects from implants/Mirena coil, and because I'm not entirely happy with the idea of tinkering with the female hormonal system, I would suggest you opt for a non-hormonal copper 7 iud after the birth of this dc.

As for your relationship, I suggest you write him off. Other than as a sperm donor. what is the point of him? Frankly, I've no doubt you can find better genes elsewhere if you intend to continue adding to your family after you've given birth to his 3rd dc.

I'm not sure how i would react if i was presented with a third unwanted pregnancy , so his saying he will move out could be panic . Having said that , you've both failed to take responsibility for contraception . Sureley youve talked about this sort of thing ?

They were using condoms, Always. #head-desk#

They were using condoms, and the creep didn't have the snip but wants the op to keep having abortions.
How have "they" failed?

And a man who wants to dump a woman for having a baby is not panicking, it's a bastard.

"he said I knew what I needed to do and it wasn't worth having a conversation about."

There aren't words to adequately capture my revulsion for the kind of horrible cunt who could say something like that.

How awful. Let him walk out, make sure his mum knows that it's because he wants his child aborted against your wishes.

I am concerned that he is a wanker belonging on Jeremy Kyle. He seems to have walked out on dsd when she was a baby/in the womb and now he's leaving a 2nd family consisting of a 3yo, 2yo and a baby in the womb. Pattern emerging. Does he think life will be easier if he leaves you, gets together with someone else and has a third family?!

Ok, his reaction is horrid, and his 'get over it attitude' is disgusting but if condoms failed you a year ago then it's both of your responsibilties to ensure another contraception works for both of you - especially since you know his reaction last time

Yes, he could have the snip, but there are also lots of other options available that don't involve surgery that are more reliable than condoms

"You know what you need to do" has to be one of the most shocking things I have read on here when it is related to what he means.

If you stay with this dickhead you must sort out something other than condoms as this will happen again. If you stay with him and shag him again of course.

Sooper, the other more reliable options involve messing up with the OP's hormones, or inserting foreign objects into her. And are still not 100% safe.
BTW, a friend almost died from an infection when she got an IUD.

He's the one who doesn't want the children.

And she had to remind him to use condoms.

I'm sure he'd just find it easier for her to keep having abortions.

Not much point to the comments about using contraception, other than for future reference. Stable door. The OP's main problem right now is her partner who sounds vile. The 'buck up' comment is inexcusable. I'd tell him to leave I think, it would be hard to forget his current attitude and previous comments even if he does 'come round' to the idea of the new baby.

You know what you need to do, and there isn't much point in having a conversation about it, hmmm?

Well, you do, don't you? You need to have the baby. That's what you need.

If he needs something else, then he'd better have a conversation about it, hadn't he?