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pleaseletmesmile · 18/01/2013 21:33

Some of you ladies may remember me from Tuesday evening, I wrote about my quandry..."should I go back to my ex in france or stay?" I want to say thanks for your honest oppinions, it's a delicate subject with those that know me. I decided to halt contact with my ex and hopefully prove everybody wrong, i.e; he would contact me lots and assure me that he was father of the year. That never happened. Your advice was brutal but truthful, thank you. I need to leave that romantic notion of our Fench lifestyle and family behind andmake the most of what my baby son and I have here in Scotland.
I would appreciate any advice on maintenance however. My ex refuses to pay our child anything. It's difficult because of the difference in French/Scottish law. I had originally hired solicitors but the fee's are ridiculous. should i resign myself to raising my son alone and stopping contact with his father? or
should i persevere and put my own finances and studies to the side? (our son was supposed to visit his father in february whilst i finished my studies/exams)

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 19/01/2013 07:25

I think, if he refuses to pay any contribution towards the welfare of your son, you should forget about visits. Some will say that makes the child the pawn in a grown-up game but I think rights have to be balanced with responsibilities. If he doesn't care enough about your son to get in contact then he really isn't 'father of the year' and your DS will not miss a man like that in his life as he grows up. Should he fight for access then maintenance is part of that agreement.

Save your money therefore and rebuild your family as it is, not as you had hoped it would be. Good luck

pleaseletmesmile · 19/01/2013 10:27

Thank you CogitoErgoSometimes. Your advice is very good and confirms my own thoughts. Take care x

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