Before I start DH & I are in a very happy and content relationship with each other, I am not looking for ways to call him or have a go etc..I just want to know how to support him.I am a regular mner but have choosen to hide my identity.
Basically I have just put the rubbish out and seen a Mcdonalds takeout bag in the bin. The receipt is dated yesterday.DH and I are doing our best to try and eat healthy esp as we BOTH need to loose weight.Having recently had a baby we now need to get fit etc.
Thing is, I am a sahm and I work my socks off every night preparing dh and I's dinner. I know dh appreciates me cooking esp as he travels a bit to get home etc.Days when dinner hasn't been ready dh seems grumpy mainly as I think he thinks I sit on my arse all day and feels it's my role as he's out working.(I don't BTW). I also don't mind usually. Dh though won't admit this.
After discovering this today I feel "whats the point", why should I rush around from 4pm onwards getting dd bathed/fed and dinner prepared.Whats the point esp when dh's been to mcd's on the way home.
Last night he said as I dished up dinner " I am not really hungry" WTF!!!! Now I know why.
After finding the wrapper I text him to say if he enjoyed it. He lied and said it was from Monday, not knowing I checked he date..Does he think I am stupid..??? He's sent me a load of horrible text's since saying I am nosey and shouldn't be looking in bins etc. I agree but I couldn't help but notice.He now says I have stressed him out further and thanks..ays he has enough on his plate without me questioning him.
He says he is stressed with work (I agree, he's self emp and is not 100% happy with the job, he's also studying a degree) and thats why he ate it. I do everything in the home, I try and make life easy for dh when he comes home. Right down to the housework/shopping etc. Says he has food and booze as a comfort where I have ad's (have pnd). Fine, but I can't kill myself taking my daily dose of ad's.He says he would rather die etc etc.
What would you do..???? He doesn't go out all the time with the lads, usually around 2 times a month (which I still feel is to much for a married father but thats imo) But when he does go out he's is out way beyond when he said he'd be home and is usually out of his head due to booze. We have a one year old dd and I feel at times I am the parent looking are 2 babies. 
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What can I do to help dh, I have suggested the gp but I can't frog march him there. I just worry that one day he will do it to excess and die. Sad I know but I think it's so selfish. I don't want to be a single mother ever..
I can't talk to my parents or my pil as dh would go mad.
Sorry it's so long and I know it may sound trivial but it's now getting to me.