How have I got to 42 never having had a friend who's just like me?

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I was watching Frasier this morning and cackling away. It occurred to me that of the people I know, some have never heard of Frasier, none will watch it and most would not find it that funny.

I've picked the right DP in this regard, we have exactly the same sense of humour. I'd love to have a friend who was similar to me. Anyone feel the same?

I have friends that like the same things I do and friends who have completely different interests. Think it would be boring if we only made friends with clones. My current b/f prefers 'Inbetweeners' whereas like you I love 'Frasier'... less said about that the better!

Not really. I have lots of friends and none of them are 'just like me'. Some of them like similar things (eg tv programs like your example as me) - some of them I havent got a single thing in common other than maybe we met at the same workplace. The fact that I have friends at all is the only factor I care about ;)

I understand what you're getting at. Yes, it's great to have friends of all types, but it's really great to sometimes have a laugh with someone who finds the same things funny, who understands exactly where you are coming from, and would do pretty much the same as you in a given situation and so understands when you do something daft.

I think the best you can do is find people who are similar to you in some bits, and try to overlap them!

CogitiErgo - I like The Inbetweeners too . I like anything that's funny although I draw the line at Miranda.

I'm happy for me and my friends to have differences, I'd just like to be able to feel that in conversation with at least one person I could be able to be myself totally.

Yes DIY that's exactly it.

I'll never have a friend who's just like me, because nobody is. If you have reasonably varied interests, though, you'll always have at least one thing in common with almost everyone you meet - and can learn something new from the rest.

I was thinking about this the other day. Not friends so much as family having nothing in common. My big passion is music and, since my grandmother died 10 years ago, no-one in the family shares my interest either in listening to it, singing it or playing it. Any mention and it's blank looks all round. My hopes are pinned at the moment on my DS who is reasonably musical and has just started to express an interest in learning how to play the piano (but only if there are no lessons and he doesn't have to practise.... ).

You won't find anyone who is that similar to you.

I think I'd be worried, if I did. But I have different things in common with different friends, as well as family.

I think you should still be able to be you totally, but just don't expect them to have exactly the same references.
The closest I had would have been my sister, as we watched the same stuff and were very close in age, when we lived at our parents'. Great times. :)

I have that friend!!!

My best friend and I met on our first day at primary school and were inseperable ever since. We have the same sick sense of humour and can both laugh until we wet ourselves at something nobody else finds funny!! We love the same films, TV programmes, often buy the same clothes without realising it and even sometimes go to phone/text each other at exactly the same time.
We've fallen out over the years but it never lasts long as we miss each other too much as nobody else 'gets us'.
We are closer than sisters (I often say she is like the sister I never had and she is God's apology for putting me into such a disfunctional family!!

I don't think I know anyone who is really and truly like me. I have felt different my whole life and recently found out age 25 that I almost certainly have Aspergers.

I do find it hard to make friends, and keep them :(

DH is very much like me in some ways and totally different in others. We have a rock solid relationship though so maybe the differences much as they drive me insane help as well as the similarities.

I don't really like Frasier OP but I do like your MN name :)

Actually, over the years i've come across a couple of people 'just like me' & i've actually found that being around them is slightly awkward; you can see the punchline to their jokes coming a mile off (because it's exactly the one you would've thought of) & you run out of things to talk about because you have no 'cultural exchange' going on - you have nothing to teach each other. And then there's the whole dressing alike thing when you start worrying if they might think you're ripping them off just because you both happen to have a huge thing for purple cordoroy or whatever!

I usually make friends with people who have a bit of a different take on things to me, but where there's enough common ground too...