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Help needed

33 replies

boobhugger · 16/01/2013 21:33

How can I leave, meaning right now. Sorry for the rushed message.
I have no money or transport and a 5month old baby.
No violence but lots of ea.
Need to leave this house now.

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aziraphale · 16/01/2013 21:35

Where are you, OP?

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boobhugger · 16/01/2013 21:36

Somerset, no family nearby.

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QueenOfCats · 16/01/2013 21:36

Where are you? I have a car and lots of petrol

Shakey1500 · 16/01/2013 21:37

Emergency phone call to a friend/relative who can collect you? Get a taxi and have someone pay at the other end? Sorry, hopefully someone more useful will be along quickly (())

QueenOfCats · 16/01/2013 21:38

Oh sorry op - I'm in London or I would have gladly helped you out Hmm

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boobhugger · 16/01/2013 21:39

Thanks for the offer queen, it means a lot to me

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QueenOfCats · 16/01/2013 21:40

Is there anyone-friend or relative nearby?

QueenOfCats · 16/01/2013 21:41

No need for thanks - sounds like you're having a tough time Thanks

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boobhugger · 16/01/2013 21:41

A couple of friends but don't want to get then involved.

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Sleepingbunnies · 16/01/2013 21:43

I'd go for taxi and someone to pay at the other end.

Are you ok? I mean, obviously you aren't but are you hurt or in danger?

Hope you find a way!

QueenOfCats · 16/01/2013 21:44

Is your partner / husband there now?

aziraphale · 16/01/2013 21:44

I'm sorry OP, I'm in Essex but would have come and got you. My advice right now is to stay in this frame of mind if you can, don't let anything influence te decision you have made (including the cold light of day).

How far away is family? Could someone be with you tomorrow?

Original poster
boobhugger · 16/01/2013 21:45

I'm not hurt or in danger, just really need to go. Yes partner is here now but I'm not a risk.

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boobhugger · 16/01/2013 21:47

Can get to family tomorrow. Just need to sit it out, I'm just panicking.

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MumVsKids · 16/01/2013 21:47

What has happened to make you want to leave right now?

I'm in midlands btw, else I too would have come and fetched you x

MumVsKids · 16/01/2013 21:49

Does he know you're planning to leave?

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boobhugger · 16/01/2013 21:49

A lot of thing have built up, I'm told im always wrong, its always my fault, I can't do anything right. Need to pack up and go

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QueenOfCats · 16/01/2013 21:50

If you are positive that you and dc are not in any immediate physical danger then perhaps hold on tightly to the decision you have made and make practical plans to get out tomorrow.

It's late, it's freezing cold and it's dark.

What's happened op? A specific incident to bring you to this decision or a build up of lots of things?

Original poster
boobhugger · 16/01/2013 21:50

He's told me if I want to go than do.
But where I'm I meant to go with no money no car and a baby.

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aziraphale · 16/01/2013 21:51

Would it help to write down your reasons for leaving and why you have come to this decision? Either on here or on paper. I ended my relationship just before new year. If you can get those reasons down t can stop you wavering (and stick to your resolve should your oh try to change your mind.) I ended it with an ea arsehole and less than a month later I am so much happier.

Sleepingbunnies · 16/01/2013 21:51

I agree with queen about being more practical to wait it out til tomorrow...

MumVsKids · 16/01/2013 21:52

Ok, how does he treat dd? Does he help with her, is he kind to her?

Feel for you, try to hang on til morning.

Is there no chance you can make him leave? Do you own or rent? Does he/you work?

Sorry, so many questions.

QueenOfCats · 16/01/2013 21:52

X posted. If you can definitely get to family tomorrow that may be the best thing to do.

How far from them are you?

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boobhugger · 16/01/2013 21:57

No chance he would leave, we rent and to be honest he is amazing with ds. Just things between us cannot carry on. You are right I'm going to have to sit it out until tomorrow, just want to cry so much but breastfeeding ds and the monitor is on so he would be able to hear me from downstairs.

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boobhugger · 16/01/2013 21:58

He works ft and I'm a sahm, family are about 200ish miles away.

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