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Should I dial 101?

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Gigaflops · 16/01/2013 18:18

Today my violent XH would have received my solicitor's letter stopping direct contact, on the advice of SS after he abused his current girlfriend in front of my daughter.
I'm at home, alone, with 3yo DD asleep upstairs and I'm terrified of what he'll do when he gets it! He lives an hour's drive away, and his car is currently SORN due to being unable to pay tax or insurance, so he's not likely to drive here but I'm frightened he may try anyway... or catch train / bus to come here...
So do I call 101 and let them know I'm scared, just in case I have to get them here in a hurry later, or would that be a waste of police time? I guess I'm just feeling a bit alone and vulnerable right now...

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Skyebluesapphire · 16/01/2013 18:27

Obviously make sure that all the doors, windows etc are locked..

Can you make sure that a friend is aware of your situation, somebody who can call you later to make sure that you are ok.

I don't think it would be a waste of Police time.. They would log the call and then if they received a call from that number later, it should already be flagged in their system as a possible situation?

JoNesbo · 16/01/2013 18:27

Call 101. They will make a note of your concerns and have a record of your contact number for the future...particularly important if you ever use a mobile phone and make an abandoned call for any reason. Domestic disputes are a nationwide priority and you will be treated accordingly, and with empathy, so don't feel bad about making the call

susanann · 16/01/2013 18:29

Sorry you are feeling alone and vunerable. Not sure about calling the police but stay indoors and lock all the doors and windows. Perhaps ring your solicitor tomorrow and ask their advice. Hope that helps.

sparklekitty · 16/01/2013 18:30

Call them and explain your fear/worry. They might not be able to do anything but if the violence against you was reported they'll have a record. They may well be able to help.

Have you got any friends or family that could come over or you go stay with them

wewereherefirst · 16/01/2013 18:32

Yes call them, make them aware of everything. Keep your doors etc locked and curtains closed. Hope everything is okay

TisILeclerc · 16/01/2013 18:50

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Gigaflops · 16/01/2013 18:51

Thanks for reading! I did call them and you were right - they were just lovely, logged the call, took all his details and mine so they can trace him if need be, checked to make sure they didn't need to send officers around and I have a reference number should I need to call again. I feel much better now! I think I'll have a glass of wine and some Xmas chocs in bed now... Grin

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TisILeclerc · 16/01/2013 18:53

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Gigaflops · 16/01/2013 18:53

So do I, Leclerc... so do i..

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