Did you spell it out to them that the relationship was now gong to be on different terms or did you let it happen by refusing to talk about certain things and refusing too much contact? Just wondering as after another hideous episode with my mother last year I have made a resolution that the relationship be on my terms...I thought she had understood this but clearly not as is wanting to see us more frequently than previously. I am ok with stating when we can see her and when we can't, but struggle to cope with the several plaintive requests for more contact and the disappointed, wounded voice. I tend to use excuses for now...saying we are too busy and hoping she will get the hint as I really don't want to have to spell it out (ie say that I simply don't want to have her in my life too much). I thought after what happened last year she would get it but clearly not. Do you think i should carry on managing the relationship so that it is on my terms or explicitly state the terms to avoid the endless pleading from her and ensuing guilt on my part?
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blusterywinds · 16/01/2013 15:06
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