Not getting the joke?

[mapleleef]

Ok this might seem pretty minor compared to some people's problems. However, I'd still appreciate your thoughts.
I have many discussions with my DH and sons about feminism, respecting women, equality etc. Thought we were roughly on the same wave length. Was away last week and returned to find that my DH had forwarded a "joke" to his ex colleagues, comprising of lots of pictures of women in various stages of undress, mostly nude, and how twisting your neck to look at them would cure your on-line neck ache ha ha! I'm no prude (why do we always have to start by stating that?) but I was shocked, disappointed and angered by this. When I challenged him, he seemed surprised by my anger, said that I took these things far too seriously and was unable to get the joke which (he said) was ironically on men for wanting to look at these pictures. Days later, I'm still annoyed with him. How do I get him to see how degrading and disrespectful to women it is? Or am I just not getting the joke?

Shoot me down in flames if you like but I think to be shocked and angered by what sounds like seaside postcard humour means you probably are a prude. :) Still... if the men in your life are supposed to abstain, you're entitled to ask them not to do it again.

If it's any consolation, my friend sent me one of those only with mostly nude men. Not my sort of thing, but I didn't find it horrendously offensive, just rather silly. At least it's equal opportunities degradation.

Nope i don't get it either.
For a start there is the assumption that all of these women were happy to have their pictures taken and on the net.

And even of he see it as ironic there will be someone that will see it as validation, 'look, everybody does it even Mapleleefs DH'

And will apply this 'logic' to all porn.

I wouldn't like it/ see it as ok if it had been men either.

But then I'm strongly against the normalisation of porn anyway.

Oh and I'm not a prude either.
I just don't see exploitation be it actual or possible as funny or sexy.

Thanks for taking the time and giving me your commonsense answers.

I would hate that too.

It's tantamount to emailing his mates and declaring how much he'd like to fuck other women.

Might be true; hugely disrespectful to you however.