DH and I have been married just over 3 years. Up until recently I was unemployed, then had baby, so was at home until I started work about 6 months ago. Whilst I was not working, obviously I did pretty much everything round the house, however, since starting work (full-time) DH has not stepped in to share domestic burden.
We have talked about it, rowed about it (I don't recognise the things he does do enough apparently, like occasionally doing the school run, or sometimes getting up with the little one in the night - even if that does entail then waking me to ask for help or take over). Anyway - all the cooking, washing, bathing, getting kids ready in the morning (we have 3 kids, 1 each from previous and little one) etc seems to fall to me.
Seeing as despite my attempts to encourage DH to help out/get involved/pitch in (however I try to put it), it falls on deaf ears, so when I'm rushing to get everyone ready to leave house at 8am and he's just surfacing to sort himself out, I'm often a little moody with him. Especially as attempts to resolve things go nowhere, so I get extremely frustrated with the situation.
However, his view is that my morning moods - which aren't every morning - are tantamount to abuse, that he's had enough now and wants to separate.
Just a bit shell shocked - we've been in similar situation before where he has threatened to finish it over a moody moment of mine, demanded apologies or assurances it won't happen again, and I've tried explaining the reason for it and that he has to see his part in it. But this time it seems for real and I just can't quite believe that he doesn't want to try to actually resolve the situation, just try to heap blame on me and call it over.