Single mum with another baby on way how will I cope?

[Chillybean]

I have discovered I'm pregnant and have spent the last week in denial, crying and general shock as I'm only 2 months into a new relationship. I am a single mum with a 2 year old from a previous relationship and my daughter's father has never been in the picture. I'm just panicked about how I will cope if I have to go it alone again.

My partner is on board, but he's cautious naturally as am I, because we haven't known each other long. He is saying he wants me and is happy about the baby but it's my decision whether or not we have it. I know in my heart of hearts termination is not something I can go through or live with, so I am trying to adjust to the idea that we are having a child. I can't tell my family yet as they are very conservative and not that emotionally supportive. My parents do help practically by taking my daughter overnight once a week, and I'm very grateful for that. When I told my mum I was dating again, she actually told me not to get pregnant again as she couldn't cope with it. I am not a young girl, 41, but they do react as if I am, and right now I'm feeling a bit foolish and irresponsible so maybe they are right. I guess I'm just looking for encouragement or advice from anyone in similar circumstances.

First of all, congratulations. :) I'm sure when you tell your Mum her earlier pronouncements about not being able to cope with extra children will take a back seat. Grannies are funny that way. If your new boyfriend is supportive and you want him in the picture then why not take him on face value? When my DS was born I was in a similar situation - very new relationship - and, while we never made it permanent, his Dad has always been supportive financially and practically. Good luck

If you can, try to treat the relationship as a separate thing - don't feel that you have to solidify what you have or commit to each other. It'd be better to end up with an amicable co-parenting relationship than to force yourselves into a hurried commitment that ends badly.

Congratulations!

Thanks for the replies, I will try to think positively, just need to get over the shock lol. You are right regarding an amicable co-parenting relationship, that's the main thing even if we don't pan out.