Namechanged for this.
dh and I, both 30 been together 11 years, married 5, 2 dc one 7 one 9m, own home together, mortgaged.
I'm in bed in tears. He's physically attacked me again. I've recent went back to work, we both work part time he had ds2 all day and picked ds1 up from school, basically what I've been doing for the past 9 months. He looked after the boys fine, but I came home at 6.30 and had to prepare dinner, do bedtime, hang up washing, empty and reload the dishwasher and hoover. I was pissed off with this and about 9pm I dared to I interrupt his programme to raise this, probably not in my most diplomatic way. it all got pretty nasty pretty quickly, he tells me to shut the fuck up, calls me an arsehole, I retaliate, he gets to justify his lack of input because he works more than me I tell him he works more but earns less and bam.
he's in my face, puffing his chest out, pushing against me, that horrible menacing look on his face he's pushing me, i turn my back on him and he shoves me hard, I go flying into the kitchen falling over the unit top.
its my fault he says, I should know when to stop pushing him, I should know when to shut up.
Maybe he's right.
This isn't the first time, it's been happening sporadically for 7 years. It's became our normal. I cry, he acts aloof and denies ever hitting me then next day we're back to normal. Our normal is good we have fun, I love him but I can't live like this can I?