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Tales of Hope

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gingerpig · 13/01/2013 18:49

I've just ended my relationship with my boyfriend of 2 years because he doesn't know how he feels about me or what he wants. He's 34. I would like to get married and have kids. I'm 32, 33 in April, and feeling pretty unloveable and low right now - even though I know finishing is the right thing to do.

Please can you tell me stories of women you know who've met wonderful, mature men who are able to make a commitment after the grand old age of 33? I need some hope here. And then tell me where to find similar types as I always seem to pick duds.

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magimedi88 · 13/01/2013 20:09

Don't want to read & run.

I met my OH when he was 39 & I was 29.

Was not expecting to meet anyone at that time.

29 years on we are still together.

Where you find them, I don't know - but they are out there.

Good Luck!

Mum2Fergus · 13/01/2013 20:15

Well not sure if its what you want to hear but I found myself single at 34 after 17 years with my exP. Cue several years dating, mostly good, occasional bad. Found myself still single and approaching my 40th birthday...but in the November of year before I met my DP via Match.com. By the February he'd moved to Scotland from Northern Ireland and moved in with me. Then in Sept 2009 along came our gorgeous DS. Life has never been so good! Just bought our first house together. Wedding on the cards once house works complete

Gigondas · 13/01/2013 20:21

I met my other half when I was 32 (and just coming out of a hopeless relationship) and he was 45 divorced with dc. Two kids and 8 years on still happy.

FreudianLisp · 13/01/2013 20:32

Met my husband at 32, married at 34, had twins at 37, am now 40.

Good luck, but pick your dating website carefully.

carameldecaflatte · 13/01/2013 20:36

I was 39 and almost resigned to being a mad spinster with a million cats. I'm now 45, he's 41 and we have a 7 month old and only 2 cats. So yes, there is hope.

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gingerpig · 13/01/2013 20:36

Gosh. I hadn't even considered trying dating websites! Not to say I wouldn't though. I live in Ireland - no idea what they are like over here.

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lemonstartree · 13/01/2013 20:37

met my (x) h when I was 35 ; he 36. Married and had 2 children. adore them and don't regret them for a second even though he was ultimately a twunt ....

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gingerpig · 13/01/2013 20:37

oh yes I already have the cats!

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gingerpig · 13/01/2013 20:40

can I just ask - why DO men stay in a relationship where they know the woman wants kids, and has said so from day 1, if it's not what they want? I wouldn't be able to stay in that relationship if if was the other way round - I mean it's hardly going to go away as the woman gets older is it?

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