How do i end this??

[NoVictim1]

Been with boyf for 8 years. In 2009 we lived seperately and he cheated on me with his ex. We worked
Through it and in 2011 had our daughter. 2 weeks after i gave birth he kissed a woman at his work and had inappropriate text message conversations.
I thought i could get past this but i just cant. I dont feel like he apreciates what it has taken for me to stay with him. I am now 4 months preg with baby no2 and to be honest i just want to leave him. However i have no money, no job and no where to go. I wouldnt ever take my child to a womans hostel and if i leave on my own im worried i wont get my kids back.
How do i get out of this? Wait til baby2 is born????
Everything he does irritates the hell out of me and he raises his voice at me all the time. Im sick of
It.

Do not leave your kids.

Is the house you live in rented or mortgaged ?

If it's rented you can go to the council and put yourself down on the list and say you have a child and are pregnant and need a new place to live due to breakdown of relationship. Worth a ttry.

Look on entitled to .com for benefit help and what you will be entitled to.

If it's mortgaged you will need a solicitor. Many offer free consultations as a first appointment.

Is a woman's hostel really worse than living in the situation you are currently in?

Not saying this to offend you but why did you decide to get pregnant again? I feel for u.. Seems u feel pretty helpless. I suggest getting advice and not leaving your children. Good luck

Is he abusive?

If yes then you need to leave now.

If not you could work on a long term plan.

Wait untill you could put both dc in nursery and you have a job. You would then have some income and be in a much better position to move out on your own. Depending on the salary of the job you would be entitled to up to 70% childcare costs, I believe anyway.

Today ive told him its over but he ignores me like usual or thinks it all a big joke. Not taking me seriously at all.
Ive told him i dont want him to communicate with me unless its our daughter and i wont be sleeping in the same room as him anymore until i can get things sorted
I have an online clothing business im starting. I did a trial a few months ago and made £700 in my first month.
Whenever i try to talk to him he never takes me seriously. Its all a big joke. He says jokingly he will fight for custody of our daughter too

Help

Don't dismiss hostel or temporary accommodation and certainly don't leave without your DC. When my friend's DD was in a similar situation she was allocated a temporary place for about 12 weeks with her baby DS but was then fast-tracked into a Housing Association place which was a really nice house. Why not talk to your local Housing Authority or Womens Aid and explain the problem? Do you have family that you and your DD could stay with? Sounds like the very worst thing you can do is nothing.

Hostels can actually be pretty nice places, don't dismiss the option out of hand. Don't leave without your dc.

Get proper advice from CAB and the council about your options for leaving and housing. You would be entitled to various benefits as a lone parent and he would be expected to pay child support (although actually getting that money can be fraught).

I would leave sooner rather than later, while you're not too heavily pregnant so that you could get settled somewhere and have your baby in peace. It won't get easier to leave once the baby is born.