Anyone still miss their ex?

[Mags11]

3 years on after he left and married someone else - Im really proud of how Ive managed with my 2 girls, work, etc. We were not suited for a number of reasons - him being outgoing, Im more reserved amongst others, so why do I sometimes miss him?
I have a boyfriend thats the total opposite - laid back, caring, 10 years younger - but I always feel like I'm the 'responsible' one. Is it because this relationships not right that I think of my ex? Im not sure I can handle all those emotions that come with a break-up! Im sorry - this sounds totally pathetic!
Advice appreciated thanks

I don't miss my ex but I get what you mean about bring the responsible one. I feel like I'm too much of an adult or something now I am a lp and find dating a bit odd that way.

I don't miss my ex at all. I do pine for the what could have and should have beens. But he was never part of that really. So I guess I miss the imaginary person I wanted to be married to.

I def agree its more the idea of them and looking back through rosé tinted glasses... Big hug xx

yep, 20 years on. Grown up dc. Both remarried and had further dc. I still miss the 'what could have been'. Grew up in a completely stable environment, don't get the moving on thing at all even though I've done it. I expected it to be for ever. Have never really got to grips with it really but have been able to rationalise it over the years. Every time our dc has issues, which still happens and is happening at the moment, I wonder what might have been. Not healthy or good but we have a good relationship now and can talk and deal with it and I just get on with it now.

It's probably normal. Your future relationships should not be the same because that relationship did not work. Focus on that.

letsmakecookies you took the words out of my mouth!

No never. In fact this thread has just reminded I ever had an ex

Yes...I miss the person he was in the beginning and the future i thought we were going to have. I don't miss the cunt he turned out to be.

Lol @ glorywhole

Haha - thanks for your replies everyone. Think Im just too goddamn sentimental at times. It drives me nuts!
So Im watching Mad Men with a large glass of alcohol.
Indians - good luck with that. It defo gets easier x

In the words of Wendy Cope, I miss what I thought he was before I knew him.

Fab poem, thank you!

Yes I feel like letsmakecookies

I find I think about xh an awful lot one way or another and I used to worry that this meant I was somehow hankering after him but I know now it doesnt.

I miss the mask and fake he pretended to be at the beginning.

I am delighted to be away from the reality of who he really was. I am forever gratefull the OW took him off my hands. It hurt at firsr he abandoned the dc, now I am delighted he left them in peace.

Not at all. I was his second wife, he went on to get a third and now they are divorced, me thinks he just likes wedding cake. The good thing for me was our lovely son.

Good poem, and seems those sentiments are widely shared x