I've been friends with this guy (I'll call him D) for about 6 months. We met through work - he was originally a client. He provided some help to me on a project I was managing, and what started as occasional work related emails escalated. We went on to exchange personal email addresses and at that point were emailing each other several times a day. I would also see him 3 or 4 times a week at work.
About 3 months after we started talking, we were on nights out with our respective friends and were emailing each other sporadically. During the conversation he asked for a favour the next day which I agreed to. I emailed him my number as he'd need it to get in touch when he needed the favour. That night he drunk dialled me, but I didn't answer. I didn't know it was him as I didn't have his number then. I did send a text asking who it was, and he replied to it the next morning apologetically.
Since then, we've texted each other every day. We have a lot in common, and so a lot to talk about, and we generally wind each other up etc. I'm very fond of him as a friend, and am attracted to him. He knows, because I told him via email. He was very gracious about it, and said he'd never really looked at me in that way but he'd love us to be friends. He also said "anyway don't you have a fella or am i mistaken". That was about 2 months ago. We've been out for dinner etc just the 2 of us, and do things for each other - we don't buy gifts for each other but have compiled playlists etc for each other.
Since that, we've carried on texting etc and the drunk dialling has also carried on. We've both done it, and it escalated over Xmas when it was happening every other night. There was also a bit of drunken and flirty texting. One morning he drunk dialled me at 6am, and I text him saying he'd won the prize (term here meaning taking the piss). He replied saying it was a shame I wasn't there, could have been interesting. I replied with ??? and he said to give him his prize with a sad face. So I left it there. Talk in general since then has been more flirty, although we still talk normally mostly.
A while ago we were talking about types. His was very brief, said he prefers smaller women and has a bit of a thing for non causicans. Also said that doesn't mean he doesn't like white women. I already knew he didn't see me that way as he told me a while ago. But I'm a curvy (14/16, 5ft 6) white woman so it was kind of confirmation.
When we first met I was in a relationship. It was a weird set up, which he found out a few months ago. Kind of like an open relationship I suppose, but we'd never given it a name. That is now over, DP has moved out etc and D knows all of this.
I've asked him what's going on, and he's not given me a clear answer.