old feelings brought back to the surface.

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When I was 17 I met an iraqi guy, he was 18 and in this country training to be a pilot. We had a 4 year relationship which resulted in 2 dcs. His government was sponsoring him so we knew he Would have to leave One day.

Eventually the time came for him to leave and it was heartbreaking, he had no option but to go home as his family Would have been in serious trouble if he'd stayed. Wekept in touch for a couple of years hoping that we could be together again One day.

After a while I met someone and we married. I decided it would be better to cut toes with my dcs father. For years my dd who is now 28 was desperate to find her father but had no luck.

5 days ago she found him through facebook, she is so happy to have him back in her life as is he. I'm so happy for my dcs also but this has brought all my,old feelings to the surface and i'm struggling at the moment. He is married in Iraq with 3 dcs. I have a dp and our relationship has been pretty rocky for the last couple of years.

I know i could never.get back with my ex but I feel a yearning for him and Would love to speak to him about our lives over the last 25 years. Is this strange to be feeling like this, I Can't stop thinking about him.

Sorry for all the typos, using my phone.

No it's not strange at all to feel like this! U yearn for a 'what your life could of been if you'd been together' because with you dp at the moment it's rocky.

Good luck, sending hugs.....

Sounds like you need to meet up (virtually if not in person), talk about the past and fill in the blanks. Quite natural when you've had 2 DCs with a man who was important to you. Not strange in the slightest. Obviously, tell your DP about it.

The only caveat I would put on it all is not to romanticise. Remember what happened to Madam Butterfly. Putting it bluntly, he was very ungallant & irresponsible to have created 2DCs with you when he knew all along that he'd be going home. He hasn't stayed in contact up to now either with you or his DCs which, even allowing for the problems in Iraq, does him no credit. Did he ever contribute financially? Offset some of that 'yearning' therefore with the knowledge that you and your DCs have not been treated very well by him in the last 30 years.