Help me decide please by reading my pros and cons list

[Shybairns]

H left home in April last year and we are mid divorce. He stopped loving me, didn't fancy me and ultimately we weren't a match for life. He was very controling and made me believe that I was ugly, not sexy and terrible at being a mum and home maker.

Six months after he'd gone I met somebody through online dating.
We had a few dates and he fell head over heals for me. I was very flattered.

Things got serious very quickly. Which was not my intention.
I was bold over by his sensitivity and the fact that he loved and fancied me just the way I am. So we both got carried away and started imagining a future together. I have only been seeing him for 3 and a half months! But you know when you are older and slightly wiser you think you see what you've been searching for in someone.

Any way this past week or so I've started having some real doubts. But I can't seem to clarify in my head what it is my gut is saying.
I have written a pros and cons list about him and 'us'.
Hope you won't flame me. I'm being very honest.

Cons

-We are from very different backgrounds.
-He has not travelled (I have extensivlely, my whole life)
-He's not had the life experience that I have.
-He makes me feel like a snob.
-He refuses to have an opinion about anyone- too accepting
-He's so desperate not to be criticised and to be liked that it makes him shy/hesitent/generally unsure what to do in most situations. (this was endearing at first but is now irritating)
-I am the leader and he is the follower in our relationship. Not sure that's what I need or want.
-No pizzaz or charisma
-I feel like Henry Higgins and he's Eliza Dolittle - Do I want that? I don't think so
-Relationship got to heavy too soon. I am not ready for a relationship as much as I thought I wanted one and hate being lonely.

Pros

-Loves me, warts 'n' all
-Kind
-Generous
-Finds me sexy
-Supportive
-Prepared to work at relationship
-Good emotional intelligence
-Wants lots of new experiences

Am I awful? Thanks for reading. Am about to dish out kids tea so will check back later to see if anyone has voiced their opinion.

I'm really confused.

He sounds much like my last BF - in most of the ways that made him my EX!

The background differences ended up with him not having a chip on his shoulder - more like a large sack of King Edwards worth of class resentment. His "sensitivity" over criticism meant I was walking on eggshells most of the time so I wouldn't upset him, the "kicked puppy" thing was a bit distressing.
But ofc because of his comparative lack of life experience he really couldn't understand when HE said things that really pissed me off.

Despite him professing to want to learn more & have more experience of life, his lack of experience made him reluctant to come out of the little bubble of his comfort zone. But I couldn't raise this or I would get kicked puppy mode yet again.

End result was he replaced the love I felt for him with mild contempt.