Emotional Affair - Thanks Mumsnetters, you might have averted disaster

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First post I've started and probably my last. Before coming on mumsnet I had never heard of the term "emotional affair" or that my behaviour could do any harm but now realise that's pretty much where I am or at the very least a major crush.

I've read just about every thread here and this article www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/advice/emotional-affair-ll

There's lots of good advice about emotional affairs on this board and some really sad stories about the fallout from affairs. All of which have brought a strong dose of reality into the fantasy land that has been my mind for the past 9 months.

I realise I am probably going to have to cut contact, which if I'm honest is a gutter and if there is anyone out there who has successfully turned an emotional affair into a true platonic friendship, I'd appreciate their advice either here or privately.

Anyway thanks for the advice handed out in those threads.

Well done you for recognising and putting a stop to your EA.
I have been on the other side of situation when I discovered my DH and work associate had crossed boundaries and been secretive about amount of contact and the extremely flirty and suggestive nature of it.It nearly ripped our long and previously very solid and happy marriage apart.We recovered ,and I know I am biased, but my DH cut all contact from OW- for me that was the only way forward.Even if your DH / partner never finds out that's the least you owe them I feel others may disagree ,but I doubt you can ever have a truly platonic friendship after you have become emotionally involved to a level that you recognise is disloyal.
Also don't delude yourself that your OH doesn't already sense something may be ' developing'.Generally to be in an EA involves some degree of detachment and distancing.Even if very subtle most partners sense it.See the posts on the thread How did you know your DH /DP was having an affair.Without realising it most of us just do.And it's endangers your primary realtionship so much more than you realise.