One of the women that works for me is, to be honest, a bit of a nightmare at times. She has been there forever, knows everything and can be really hard work at times. However, I get on okay with her and I am her boss which she respects. Today, we were trying to do something on the computer and several people in the building tried to help. Basically, none of us could do it and so we all just gave up. She looked really unhappy and said 'oh well, my dh will just say I am useless as usual. Everything I do he makes fun of, I'm not allowed to have instructions for anything and he tells everyone we know how hopeless I am. the only thing I'm allowed is my Kindle' I was really shocked for her - although I'd had an idea he may be a little controlling as have met him a couple of times and got a sort of feeling. We talked for a bit and I said that I felt that was controlling and humiliating behaviour and that she needed to tell him we had all tried etc, she just seemed resigned to it.. It just made me really unhappy for her. I can sort of see now why she is the way she is. Should I try to help her? or should I just let it go??