So grumpy

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I am due to have our first baby any day now and for one reason and another the last few months have been very stressful at home, one problem after another (not to do with baby or marriage). DH has been very busy (nad i mean VERY busy both at home trying to get house ready for baby and also very busy at work,but he is very often grupmy at home, so much so that i feel i don't want visitors if he's here in case he's irritable and embarrases me. Tried to talk to him about it and he says he always feels there's stuff to do, never gets time to himself (which is almost true atm, but will only get worse when baby arrives!)and that i'm always asking him to do things (again true but if i try to do them myself he says i should be resting). Got really upset about it yesterday as want my happy dh back and in many ways he's a wonderful person. opinions please!

oh that sounds so familiar :)
we already have kids dd 4 and ds 19m.
Try suggesting to your dh to 'schedule' some time for himself if that's the issue, like night out with the boys, watching his fav programme, reading a book, going to the gym (if he does) etc.

I keep suggesting it to my dh but hit a brick wall... but might work with yours

He does spend time watching TV by himself sometimes but but doesn't seem to help. Just can't imagine him being so rude and grumpy to anyone else. i've aksed him if he's not happy with us and if he's happy about he baby and he says yes to both. But if he is then why is he so snappy - am dreading if i have to have a caesarean and so need him to do much more to help as it's bound to make the situation worse.

giving him the benefit of doubt maybe he's just scared about life with baby?

dh's 'moods' did get worse after we had kids. Got to a point where I actually asked him whether he wants to be with us as it sure as didn't feel like it as he was keeping out of the way. His interpretation was though by keeping out of the way he wouldn't upset us... male vs female logic and interpretation I guess.

Are you likely to needing a cs? If so do you have family that could step in in case your dh 'looses' it?

have asked him how he feels about baby's arrival and he says he's looking forward to it. Not really got any family to help out so if will be down to dh to help. no reason why i will need CS but it's always a possibility. I so want this to be a happy time. have been dreading going into labour today as it feels like it would be spoilt by our stressful conversation last night.