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I would like some reassurance

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kateissotired · 08/01/2013 23:16

I had a thread a couple of days ago, my boyfriend had dumped me. I went to a NYE party and he was there with his new girlfriend and I thought it was a new thing but he had been seeing her for ages. She is younger and thinner and all the cliches. She let slip that he was with her for longer than he let me know, and I an just fuming. I am still bloody angry. I do not think I have a question, I think I just wanted to vent. And the cow was wearing my necklace.

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JammySplodger · 08/01/2013 23:22

How very rubbish!

Hopefully some night-owls will be along in a minute to keep you company and offer up nice words (I'm not very good at this other than to say what a bitch, and what a bastard!).

Time to hit the sales for a shiny new necklace?

TurnipCake · 08/01/2013 23:26

Oh that's crap. He's obviously a lying sack of shit, it hurts, but eventually you'll consider yourself relieved that he's not your sack of shit to deal with. How did she get your necklace? How odd, for someone to wear jewellery that wasn't theirs, especially if it was in the possession of a new partner, I'd automatically assume it was an ex-girlfriends.

dequoisagitil · 08/01/2013 23:31

What a classy bloke to give his new gf your necklace. Hmm

You're bound to be upset & angry still, but really he's a bullet dodged. Lucky escape!

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kateissotired · 08/01/2013 23:32

I left it at his house and there she is, wearing it. The necklace was the icing on the cake to be honest, he texted me to ask me not to make a scene. Oh I am fuming still, a week later.

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ObscuredByClouds · 08/01/2013 23:33

I agree, lucky escape! He'll probably do the same thing to his current gf. You're better off without this scumbag!

Solo · 08/01/2013 23:36

Lucky escape! I've been where you are, but left holding the baby ~ literally. He's a lying, cheating arse and what goes around, comes around! he'll get his, don't you worry.

And I'd have asked her for my necklace back too Angry

TurnipCake · 08/01/2013 23:38

Don't make a scene?! Oh what a knob.

StupidFlanders · 08/01/2013 23:40

Did she know that it was your necklace and about the timeline? I would have looked surprised and said "is that my necklace?" Just so she realised what a catch she has.

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kateissotired · 08/01/2013 23:44

I tried to be ok but I asked why she was wearing my necklace, and she looked awkward, and then the ex came over and said I was making everything awkward by challenging her, so I left

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MorrisZapp · 08/01/2013 23:45

If I had the money I'd hire a troupe of hammy actors, dress them in Shakespearean regalia, and let them do their absolute worst to anybody who uttered the words 'don't make a scene'.

Don't make a scene?

Don't make a fucking scene?

How bloody dare he.

izzyizin · 08/01/2013 23:52

He's not worth another second of your time, but what is the value of your necklace?

I don't suppose you'd want it back after it's been around her neck but I don't see any reason why you should be out of pocket when you look to replace it.

I'm wondering what kind of woman wears a necklace she's found lying around her bf's place? Could he have wrapped it up and given it to her for Christmas? Hmm

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kateissotired · 08/01/2013 23:56

It was not all that, a shop bought cheapy, but she looked very impressed with it so I do think it had been wrapped up. What a fucker

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izzyizin · 08/01/2013 23:56

On second thoughts I'd demand he returns the necklace otherwise I'd create a scene of Shakespearean proportions as outlined by Morris, albeit my drama would only require a cast of one Angry

TurnipCake · 08/01/2013 23:57

Indeed. Either he is cheap and gave it to her as a present or she has more gall than I thought.

Regardless, you are so much better off out of this OP, I think you were very dignified in walking out. He can flaunt her about as much as he likes, he's not suddenly going to go from knob to brilliant boyfriend for her, for anyone, it's not Miracle on Douchebag St

dequoisagitil · 09/01/2013 00:01

Oh you were making things awkward! I'm sorry you left, you're not the one at fault here.

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kateissotired · 09/01/2013 00:01

But I feel miserable, and old and alone. I need fresh air and some grip up

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kateissotired · 09/01/2013 00:07

Sorry, this is a non problem

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dequoisagitil · 09/01/2013 00:09

It isn't a non-problem. You're feeling hurt and alone. But things will get better.

AnyFucker · 09/01/2013 00:10

It's not a non-problem, upset is upset

But I do think you have had a lucky escape there

TurnipCake · 09/01/2013 00:12

Not a non-problem. It will get better for you.

Solo · 09/01/2013 00:13

It will get better. Why are you feeling old?! you need to give yourself some ;pamper time and ensure that if he/she/they happen to see you anywhere that you look amazing!

izzyizin · 09/01/2013 00:39

Demand he returns your necklace forthwith and gift it to a charity shop near his home that displays items of jewellery in its window.

As 50 is the new 30, and by that reckoning 70 is the new 50, I suspect you've got many years ahead in which you can repeat your mistakes enjoy relationships with men who are infinitely more worthwhile than your ex piece of piss Grin

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