Cogito, I u deer stand what you're saying, but aren't some men still unable to communicate feelings? My dP is exactly like that and he's 42. He grew up in a family with three brothers. He was sent to boarding school from a young age and his mum is lovely but sometimes seems a bit un cuddly if that makes sense.
So he didn't ever really learn to express his feelings. He will never complain about anything. I on the other hand have no problem with getting things off my chest. He sometimes has an outburst about something silly like I left something in the way. I might not have done it for ages, but the fact that the same thing happened a few months previously and he didn't just say that it annoyed him, he'll get all dramatic with 'you're ALWAYS leaving things lying around'. That's obviously a silly example but hopefully it makes some sense.
Men are just not like women. They don't do feelings. Women do. Each sex expects the other to always see things the way they do, but we don't and probably never will.
TheSeventh, I'm so pleased you spoke about things. Like I said you reminded me of me. In an ideal world your DP would have just said 'I feel a by bad for going out without you' but he built I up in his own head and then had an outburst which was the conversation. Often that happens and then the real issue comes out and then ou can move on. Maybe he is selfish, but really, nt many men can just talk. It's almost like they have to create a bi of a drama before being able to talk about it. It's silly but it is true. My dad was the same with my mum.
Also, men like to feel wanted rather than needed, or at least that's my opinion. Start doing things for yourself and prove to him that you don't need him, in a good way. Sorry for the long post again.
Hope everything's alright with you and you can put this behind you. Xxx