The case of the 'Stolen Name'

[Igetknockeddownbutgetupagain]

I was going to change details to protect identities, but actually I hope the people concerned do read this and realise they are in the midst of what is a petty, ridiculous situation. FYI, these are not characters from a Jeremy Kyle episode, these are sane, educated beings who should know better.

My Mum got a kitten about 3 weeks ago, a while after the sudden death of her previous much loved feline friend.

She has called it Milly May. No reason, just liked it, but had a few other ideas.

My sister takes a photo (yawn, but whatever, different strokes) uploads it to #the root of all evil# / aka Facebook, and puts the kitten's name underneath.

My cousin, pregnant with her 1st baby, due in Feb, later comments 'Original name...!'

She sends my mum a message, the day after Christmas telling her that she had chosen Mollie May for the baby, as her Nans name was May, and she felt my Mum must have known (??!) and that she'd been very upset ever since. My Mum, sent a very nice message back saying she hadn't known, just liked the name and how was the pregnancy going now?

The next day, no reply, my cousin simply 'unfriended' her.

My cousin is 32.

Bloody mental. Or is it...? Should my Mum change the kittens name? Try and talk to my cousin over the phone? Or do what I've suggested, which is ignore the situation and carry on as normal?

It wasn't a kitten. It was an ancient cat, on its last legs. These things happen!
And it was over 25 years ago. We had therapy and we're over it now. Just.

Thanks clam

Tame

How about giving your cousin this book?

"the spirit of family"
Hardly very family-oriented to take the hump with your aunt, act like a petulant child and de-friend of FB though, eh.

BeerTricks - "you're not Jesus, you're just a fella! "

(WDTW reference:) )

We had a friend with a small dairy herd. All his lovely moo cows were named after women and girls among family and friends.

Cousin is being silly, obv.

This is hilarious!

Ignore and carry on as if nothing has been said/done. Anything else dignifies such immature behaviour with a response it doesn't deserve.

With any luck, it's daft pregnancy hormones causing this and in the fullness of time cousin will feel a bit and be glad that her behaviour seems to have been ignored and forgotten.

I suddenly want to see Whistle down the Wind.

Maybe suggest Hayley as an alternate name for the baby?

Your cousin is being extremely silly. But that is families for you.

Has I had a girl, she was going to be called Samantha Joanne (aka Sammy Jo). At the time my PILs had a dog called Sam and my DSIL had a dog called Joe. So in effect my DD would have been named after the dogs, but unintentionally.

Hopefully she will come to her senses soon.

I'm I the only one who (possibly mis)read the OP and thought that the pregnant lady heard about Millie May, thought that was a nice name, commented genuinely on facebook, then decided she wanted it for her baby and spent the next few weeks concocting a plan as to how she could pretend it was her name first and she didn't copy your mum, and then in case anyone doubted it, she defriended your mum to add gravitas to her story?

Somethingtotalkabout you are a very devious & have a slightly twisted view of the world. I like your way of thinking!

OP's mum should get an army of cute kittens, naming them Macy, Maddie, Maggie, Mandy, Marcie, Marnie, Mattie, Maxie, Mellie, Merry, Micki, Minnie, Missie, Misty, Mitzi, Morny and Money (for good luck, she'll need loadsa wonga for so many cats!)
Then she should get one more, call it Mona and tell everyone she named it after the cousin.

Lemon,
It should have been:
"She defriended your Mum? Because your Mum was not psychic and named her cat something a bit similar to the baby name she had in mind"

This woman clearly has a gift.
Of finding out babies' names by naming cats.

Also, Mollie May is a silly name and she'll be called M&Ms. :o

Half a lifetime ago, my best friend had a lovely dog. The dog accepted me as part of the family and regularly shared my bed when I slept over. He was stubborn but cute. Fastforward 15 years, as I was trying to pick out a name for my firstborn, I somehow settled on this particular name that I just liked... Only occured to me some time later that it was the dog's name... Oh well, he was a lovely dog andDShasthesamepersonality--

THEN someone pointed out that my stepmother's brother's son has the same name. (oh well, I'm not in touch with them... Later heard they found it sweet.)

And then I had DD. Her second name is after my DGM (she was honoured). Only it turns out that the step-cousins have a daughter with the same name.

Can't win.

If I was in your aunt's situation I would message back saying I was affronted that she wanted to name her baby after the cat and that the cat had the name first. And tell her that she must change the baby's name or ELSE. But I'm a very small, petty person.

Your cousin is a frothing loon. It's perfectly sensible to call your PFB after the cat. (Says she with 9 cats...)

Lueji

And RichardSimmons agree.

It could be worse! I know a friend whose sister was born in march, she was named, Jessica smith (name change) in June if the same year, jessicas cousin was born (dads were brothers). What do they call the baby??? Jessica smith?! The families were close and the two jessicas even went to the same school and were in the same class at one point!!! Now that's a stolen name!!!! :)

I had already chosen my DS's name years before he or his cousin were conceived, but my sis named my nephew that name. Grr
I gave DS another name and hardly remember my initial favourite.

But they could easily have been called the same, and neither would have been copied.
Allegedly...

The mother-to-be is barking.