:( Fuck. I mean really

[tiredofwaitingforitalltochange]

Regulars will know me, I've been here on and off in 2012, MNers saw me through my marriage break-up. A thousand thanks as I've said before :)

I was looking to 2013 as the positive breakthrough year, having left EA dh.

The wind's been taken out of my sails this morning, big time.

DM phoned and told me she has breast cancer and will be having surgery in a few days' time (on my 42nd birthday :()
Can't believe it. No family history, no risk factors. She is 73.

Tell me to fuck off and post on Health, I probably should.

But 'Relationships' has been my home for a few months. Please anyone tell me some positive stories. I can't bear the idea of living without my (semi-toxic) mum. I love her so much.

:(

Sorry to hear your mum and you have to deal with this.

Here are the positives I read from your OP:

Your mum is in the menopausal age range - her cancer is less likely to be v aggressive.
She is being offered Tamoxifen which means her ca must be oestrogen receptor positive which is a Good Thing.
You do not mention chemotherapy which suggests there is no concern for distant spread at this point.
She is having a WLE rather than full mastectomy - again suggests only local spread.

At the end of the day, other people's positive (or negative) stories mean nothing for how your mother is going to do, remember that. Look at the McMillan website or Cancer Backup for information, but Do Not Google.

V best of luck to your mum and yourself .

I'm so sorry OP :(

My DMIL had BC last year - she's about the same age as your DM. She had a lumpectomy and radiotherapy and, apart from some swelling (which has been checked out and isn't dangerous) is doing brilliantly. She's been 'clear' for 6 months and is still her usual active self.

Big hugs xxx