My beautiful loving, caring, wife of 13 years has flipped out and turned into someone i dont know. We have 3 beautiful children and were in a lot of peoples eye's, incl ours 'the perfect family.'
2 months ago, i found out my wife was having an email exchange with a guy she had met briefly, when i confronted her, she had a breakdown, lost an enormous amount of weight and has cried everyday since. She says it was no more than emails, but she now questions our marriage as she feels she should not have done this. She says she needs an intimate connection with someone as she cannot have one with me.? She feels suffocated and wants to run away and escape. Our children are 10, 8 and 5 and she has been an amazing Mum. It was her whole life, but now she wants time for herself. She wants to dance! She wants to be out socialising etc.. Very scary..
There is more to the story as she kept mentioning a dark secret she had from when she was young. We started counselling, together and her on her own and it turned out to be a very horrific secret, something that happened to her from the age of 6 to 12 and her Mother still does not know.. She is in turmoil as she does not want to break up her family, but the need for something else is so strong. I am trying to give her space, but of course im at my wits end and desperately do not want to lose my family. My family means everything to me. Any advice and possible 'ray of light' stories would be more than welcome.