Has anybody else's dh/dp turned nasty and/or crazy when leaving them?
I have decided to leave my dh after years of feeling nothing. I have posted here re the background to how I've got to this stage. (Have name-changed though)But basically it's after years of neglect and no love. No attention to me or kids. Totally obsessed with work. There's obviously a lot more to this but this post will be way too long if i go into all the details.
We have dcs and I've only really hung on this long for their sake but things have been getting worse and the last year has been absolutely horrendous.
I told him how I felt over a year ago but he just does not want to accept it that this is the way I feel.
He has tried to change and tried to become the guy I've wanted him to be but it's too late. I just do not feel anything at all for him. I feel like all the years he was emotionally and physically absent from our marriage, I moved on and have become a different person.
We have been sleeping in separate rooms for years and have zero physical relationship. These days we do not even speak to each other. The atmosphere in the house is horrible and I don't want the kids growing up thinking this is normal.
Anyway, he has become extremely paranoid and is hanging onto our non existent marriage for dear life. He says I do not know what I'm doing, I'm not thinking straight, I'm going to regret my decision, I will be alone for the rest of my life, he hopes I will meet someone who will treat me the way I am treating him etc etc. he thinks I'm having an affair with my business partner (I'm not) and says he prays that me and bp die and our business fails.
He texts me day and night. Non stop. A few months back he slapped me after I told him to 'shut up' after he said something really hurtful about me to dc.
I've only stayed this long for the kids and also because I didn't just want to walk out of the house with the kids with all this hostility and ill feelings. I wanted him to come to terms with it and be civilised regarding the kids etc. but I don't think he is ever going to accept it.
He is very close to my family and talks to them daily. My family all support him and say I'm doing the wrong thing by leaving him. I know once I leave they will not be there for me but will still stay in touch with him.
Anyway, what I wanted to ask was how did other people's dh/dp's react when they left? Did they turn crazy and start saying all kinds of hurtful things?
How did you physically leave the house if you left and not them? I don't want to leave in the middle of the night with small dcs or when he's gone out. But the way he is now, I might have to as I don't think he will let me out the front door.
Any advice or experiences would be welcome :-(