Skype and ex's family

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I'm more of a lurker than a poster but would appreciate your advice.

Just a bit of history - Ex left 2 years ago leaving his dd (nearly 6 now). No contact or maintenance.

Ex's brother and partner have stayed in contact with dd and myself via skype and this where I need your advice. I find ex brother's partner very overpowering, loud, abnoxious at times and questioning how I raise my dd on a number of occasions. I actually find her quite intimidating. DD is afraid of her and that's putting it mildly. I see no benefits of maintaining this virtual relationship. I have to coax dd to talk to them on skype and I find it such hard work at times. I have tried to distance myself, but they keep texting me to arrange skype, I have not responded to their latest texts. Ex's brother would have no interest in maintaining a relationship with dd, if it it were not for ex's brothers partner initiating contact.

What would you do? Would you continue to ignore or what would you say without being rude? I want to cut ties as I find it too stressful and I think dd has been through enough over the last few years. Maybe I'm being selfish?

Ignore, ignore and ignore.

What benefit does this contact bring?

Forget about being rude, she's your dd so ignore this woman.

It's very kind of you do try to the right thing by your DD and her relationship with your EX's family but it sounds like the right thing has become quite wrong and I think you're absolutely justified in cutting contact.

Thank you so much for your comments.

I feel a sense of guilt on behalf of dd, but in the long run I think it's best to cut contact.

Might it help your guilt if, for instance, you sent them a short email at Xmas with an update on DD and a pic? Then don't engage with their reply!

That way your DD will always know that you always did the right thing