Does this constitute messing me around?

[superstarheartbreaker]

I've been chatting to someone on a dating website over Christmas; weve been getting on so well, calling etc and only just had the opportunity to meet due to Christmas. Date was lovely and we chatted away as usual. Ended with a lovely hug.
Trouble is our situation has complications inclusing the fact that he wants to go travelling. After the date he said he liked me, we have chemistry and I am attractive, intelligent and funny but he really needs to find a travelling companion. I can't be that person as I have dd. I knew he was off travelling at some point but why do I feel so sad. It is never enough to be 'attractive, intelligent and funny ' is it? The timing has to be right.
We both said that we are really glad taht we met though and we left things well. I don't think I could stay friends though as tbh I like him quite a lot more than just friends.

True solid. He was very needy over Christmas which is a huge red flag in itself but also plays into my needy , gullible desire to help people esp during the festive period. He admitted that the connection was emotional rather than physical to which I replied that an emotional connection was what I'm after and that he isn't my type physically and that I normally go after buff 22 year old with no persoanlity but thought I would give him a chance!
Anyway; NEXT! I don't do shallow.

superstar, I do feel for you.
I am into major overanalysing, Bridget jones style too! I am 47 now- have been doing it for last 20 years!!! (with 10 years or so off for relationship and kids!)
So I am aware of what I am doing, but it's still hard isn't it? I have been obsessing over someone I work with who talked a lot to me while he was going through a hard time.
He went away over Xmas, and hasn't contacted me since. So I reckon I am wasting my time and desperately need to get over it!