should i distance myself from these friends or dump them or something else?

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trying to not be identified in rl but basically when my child started school, i became friends with a group of other mums.

one person is ok, very quiet, another person who ok but who seems to think i'm pretty dim, ok i'm the most intelligent person i know, but i'm not that bad

two people are nice and geniune

and one person who is really pushy, gets pissed off if you can't or do want to go somewhere or do something
constantly constanly seeks praise
when your worried about anything she makes it feel worse, shes not all bad, her high maintence personality can make her quiet thoughtful and caring at times
but i think she likes to feel superior over others.

so do i just distance myself from this group

or just see them occasionaly but take it with a pince of salt

ive not really been in group friendships since school days really, i tend to have friends that i see either in pairs or one to ones

i don't know if its the group dynamic i'm not into

or if i'm over sensitive

what do you think?

I think you need to maybe stick with friends you know and trust and accept that just because your children share the same school it doesn't necessarily mean you have to be close to them. I had sod all in common with any school mums.

You get all this from a few minutes at the school gate or are you in and out of each others' houses? I used to find it best to aim for polite interest only, not give out too much private information about myself or DS and, dodge any unwelcome invitations with 'work commitments'. I'd go with your second option of seeing them occasionally and taking what they say/do with a pinch of salt.

Mmmm, maybe best to go with the occasional option by the sound of it I agree.

There are always going to be people around who make us feel dim and always people who are high maintenance etc. In certain situations we have to put up with them e.g work but you don't have to put up with it here so much. On the other hand, if you get something out of the company of them and the more pleasant ones then all well and good. Suppose you've got to weigh up the good bits against the ball-ache bits?

oh no, not from ust the school gates, from doing things with them Socially

yes i suppose its a case of weighing it up, if the cons out weigh the good