Just wondering really - bit of background:
A fairly close friend has been with a guy for 2 years. There have been 2 incidents where she's called the police, he's been arrested, bailed and told not to approach her or their home. Both times she has called and begged him back and dropped the matter. I have listened to her and tried to help her for hours, and would honestly drop everything if she wanted to bring her kids and stay at mine to get away from him, but she doesn't.
This is going to make me sound horrible, but he earns a massive (90k+ huge bonuses) salary, and has a job with a high profile sports team which means she gets to go places, meet people and experience things she wouldn't normally. I think this lifestyle is a big part of why she's staying. When we talk, even when things are in a "good" period, she talks quite blatantly about what a cunt he is, how he pisses their money away on drink and coke (!) and how he makes her feel shit. So the lifestyle is all I can think of that's keeping her there.
Recently they announced their engagement. As the wedding is taking place abroad I cannot go as I simply wont be able to afford it, but it got me thinking. Even if it was in the UK I don't think I could in all conscience attend. I'm not posting for advice on helping my friend, as I think all I can do is continue to let her know I'm there....but was just interested to see whether people in my position would attend or not.