Where are my friends?

[theluckiest]

Ok, was going to post this in Aibu but not feeling emotionally very strong today. Am very weepy and down at the moment. Feel like I have no friends left to just meet up with / talk to. Work FT term time only so don't tend to see anyone regularly except in hols.

I have 2 little DSs so have been spending lots of time with them. However, DH works in retail and have barely seen him over festive period. I have never felt this lonely and isolated.

Spent NYE getting very down at home and cried. I feel like I don't know where I have gone. I used to have a wide network of friends, busy social life and we saw each other a lot. Then naturally, people drifted, moved away or just got busier. My best mate moved to Australia (we skyped a few days ago....that's the only friend I've 'seen' recently).

Have contacted several friends to arrange meeting up over Christmas hols. Out of 6 friends, only 2 replied. 1 is away, 4 didn't get back to me at all. I arranged to meet with one friend today, she has just cancelled due to illness so I guess I'm just feeling more shit and vulnerable than usual. I'm actually looking forward to going back to work just for someone to talk to.

Reading this back, I know I sound needy. I really have never felt as down as this. for fucks sake, I just need to spend some time with someone else who isn't under 5!!

Anyone else feeling like Billy No Mates?

Ok, so there's an irony at posting about loneliness and getting no response!

Never mind.

hi, I think most people tend to hibernate over xmas, I did not see any friends, I could not be arsed

I also found my 2 young DS very hard work too! I was also on my own alot but for different reasons

Try and see it as a blip, rather than reality IYSWIM?

and have a new years resolution to plan a bit more social stuff

xxxx

I'm envious that you had 6 whole friends to text and 2 of them ACTUALLY REPLIED

I think it'll be the Toddler Effect making you crave adult conversation about booze sex willies politics and such.

Saw your thread title and thought that your friends may be hiding in a big hole somewhere next to my friends, and they are only going to come out when we stop looking for them and go home!

:( bumping for better advice I don't really know what to say but didn't want to leave it unanswered again

Ha ha! Yes Glittery., that's it! Actually any conversation that doesn't involve Lego or Spiderman would be a bonus....

I think this is just a blip. Feeling pretty run down & at a low ebb generally so things get magnified at this time of year I spose. Thanks for replies!

I feel like this and it has been gradually been getting worse over the past few months. I used to have lots of friends but lately they are all so busy with their own small children and families that they rarely socialise and I don't see one friend on a regular basis. I miss having a best friend and don't feel like I am important to anyone really. I have been seeing my boyfriend for 6 months and he is the only person I see regularly. I saw him pretty much constantly over Xmas and NY but am home now and feel utterly bereft. If he finishes the relationship I will be devestated and I am having to make a huge effort not to be clingy with him. I have no family so this makes things worse too I have tried to make the effort with a few people lately with little response. One friend suggested we join the gym together but then cancelled on me and never replied to another text about organising another date. Another, the only friend I have without kids, has stopped replying to texts too. My 2 best friends live miles away and I am just so lonely.

I guess OP if you work FT you would probably not be able to try the usual parent and toddler groups. I just don't know what to suggest because I have been trying to find a solution too. Unless you try Netmums - they have a "Meet a Mum" section on there so perhaps you might be able to hook up with other isolated mums at weekends. My DS is 11 now and most of the ads where I live are for people who have younger kids wanting to do stuff with others who have kids of a similar age so you may have more luck on there than me. What sort of a job do you do - perhaps you could look into organising some sort of social if you work for a big enough company.

Hope things get better for you (and for me also) because I know that feeling like this is terrible