If this is a true story, how can someone be so heartless?

[Beaverfeaver]

Woke up this morning to read this very sad thread on another website.

www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&f=210&t=1234284&mid=159005&nmt=The+cancer+kiss+off+%2D+Being+dumped+after+diagnosis

Not that we can ever know both sides of the story or if te guy is telling the whole truth, but should he be, how can a woman who is meant to be his wife, the mother of his child treat someone in such a terrible way?

I am often saddened to read the awful things that husbands and partners do, but nothing tht has actually shocked me to the point that I can't think any human, male or female would do this

Sorry, here is the link working now www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&f=210&t=1234284&mid=159005&nmt=The+cancer+kiss+off+%2D+Being+dumped+after+diagnosis

Do you think it's appropriate to post that link on another website. Have you asked the OP if its ok to do that?

Quoting from the piece.... "I've always had a up n down relationship with the other half"

If it's a bad relationship to start with, the introduction of a serious illness is not suddenly going to make it a good relationship. I've no idea what 'up n down' means in reality but it's clear that this couple have stuck together way beyond a point that was healthy for either of them.

He's asking for helpful advice. Surly the more people his story reaches, the more chance he is to get the help and support he is asking for.
That seems like quite a thoughtless post, and I am honestly gutted for the guy.

Public message boards are public property akaemmafrost. His can be linked in an MN thread same as MN threads can end up in national newspapers. No permission required.

Cogito - that is a valid point.

The thing that I found hard to ubderstand he most is that even in spite of a failing marriage, how could someone go to the effort of making up emails, putting their ill DH in such a bad light to others around him and risk him losing out on family support when he needs it most.

She probably didn't realise it would make him suicidal, but she just clearly wasn't thinking at all.
I couldn't so something like that to my worst enemy.

The primary factor should be making sure the son gets the chance to spend as much time with his dad as possible before the worst should happen. Such a shame that he potentially missed out on their last Christmas together

Agree with akaemmafrist.

I think I'd report the thread and get MNHQ's opinion on whether the thread should dtand.

It's always wise to remember you are only getting one, most likely slanted, version of the story.

Very sad though.

Still think it's inappropriate. It's a different place and not one where the OP may have chosen to post. Yes it's accessible to all but I don't think many of us would like it if stuff we posted was linked to other websites. I remember there being outrage when newspapers picked up threads and used quotes from here.

For all you know, this could be an elaborate story, cooked up by the man in question, designed to make his ex look like a heartless, psycho bitch that has driven him to contemplate suicide.... Stranger things have happened

I am also unconvinced that the reasons for posting it here on MN are genuine as well.

Though to be quite clear I have every sympathy for the OP of that threads situation.

Opentopersuasion - that was part of the point of my post.

It's so shockingly horrible that there is some part of me that doesn't quite believe that someone would do this an we will never know without the wife putting her side to it.
There has got to be some explanation, whether it be MH or EA someone along the line.
Don't know if tere would be anything bad enough to make someone act in such a terrible way though if this is 100% true