He told me that he would be working 'away' in January and would not see the DCs. Then he sent me an email, indignant that I should have had the temerity to ask him where he's going, telling me that he has signed a year's contract on the far side of Europe.
WTF? He is supposed to be devoted to our DCs, 5 & 4... but this doesn't say much does it?
We are getting towards the final stages of divorce (arguing over money, now that he's finally made some financial disclosures after a year of asking). He was controlling and undermining since the first DC was born and it gradually grew into full blown EA. Up to now he has had them alternate weekends. He still uses his outrageous temper to try to frighten me (always his weapon of first resort), and of course was/is absolutely outraged that I decided I'd had enough and had the strength to separate. He has been nothing but righteously vicious to me for years now.
But this? He will convert any objections I have into my selfishness. Shall I not bother saying anything at all? Can I make it positive? Is this the start of him distancing himself from the children... perhaps he will disappear almost entirely from their lives in a major fit of pique.
He will say he is merely providing for his children. But what on earth is he thinking? They will hardly see him. I am sad for them - they love him and they are without doubt the best things in his bitter, self-destructive life. As far as I'm concerned he can FRO. I think 'What a bastard. A fucking stupid one.'
Is there anything positive I can take from this - apart from the fact that I don't have to eyeball him nearly so often?
Poppy