Bm has just found out that her do is seeing someone else

[jofeb04]

hiya
my best mate found out her dp has been seeing someone else for most of the relationship. They have been together for 7years, and she had her susspicions etc. Last week, she caught her dp wih someone else, kissing.
After much talking, he addmitted that for the past 6years, he has been with someone else. He addmitted it was while she was pg, at first it was just the sax. He stopped when ds was born for 6months, then she got in touch again with him.
Bm cant believe it, the last 6years of her life has been a lie.
I no her dp, and cant believe he would do something like this. Shes been on the phone to me telling me this info. She doesnt no what to do. And neither do I. First thought is to get rid of him, but its easier said than done.
Any advice I can pass on to her pls??

i blame the jazz clubs

sorry reaction to "at firts it was just hte sax"

nothing you cna do - get out of relationship - if its going to rescue itself it will but you cant just sit in a relationship that isnt one expecitng it to all get beter when hes not worht it

Thats what i thought, thx mud, but ive never gone through it or even know anyone who has had a similar problem etc.

OMG. She's got no choice but to get rid, really. All you can do is hold her hand and listen to her. And help her out with any practicalities if she's too down to do the 1001 things mothers have on their plates. How on earth can he have got away with this without her knowing, all this time?

i know, shes only had feelings that something wasnt right the past couple of weeks really.
He seemed to have met this other women through work, so when he was working late etc, he was as far as bm was concerned.
He had other womens number in his mobile as work, so whenever there was a call or something, it was "work".
Shes coming over tonight, and her ds is staying the night, she wants some time on her own tonight to have a good think.