Updates on FB

[jungletoes]

I've just posted on fb that we've had to change our plans today(due to have big family party tonight) as my dh has a tummy-bug. He's gone ballistic and demanding I delete it, a bit ott I feel. Would YOU be pissed off?

Turns out he's pissed off because people assume he's over-indulged, nothing to do with not wanting people to know why he's ill. I did not disclose more information than "he has an upset tummy". I called family beforehand, I have some manners, and was not belittling in anyway in my post. It's deleted, the end. I have found your responses interesting, and I get the impression most of you don't fb.

Don't think it's safe to assume we don't FB. It's just that most wouldn't put really personal stuff out there for public amusement any more than they'd stand on a street corner with a bell yelling 'my DH has the shits!!!!' to passers-by. It's called 'standards' perhaps... ?

We do FB, we just do it with a little dignity and decorum.

I get the impression you don't like being disagreed with.

I "do" FB, I just don't post needless, TMI shite that no-one else would be interested in.

Well it would appear that I am not friends with anyone on here because FB has been full of this type of update over Christmas.

I think it would have been fine for you to say the party had been cancelled because you couldn't stop shitting yourself, but less than ideal to say it about someone else without clearing it with them first.

I fb, I just don't assume that a girl I met once on holiday is interested in knowing that my partner is currently shitting liquidly into a bucket.

I've got two FB accounts. It's rude.

"Upset tummy." That makes him sound about four.

I used to FB but then realised it is a bit rubbish really so now I don't bother.

I really don't see the point of putting your life on FB. I mean, why do people do it?! I mean really, is anyone interested?!

Exactly, Pink*.

IMO those who need to publicise everytedious trivial detail about the minutiae of their lives are wasting valuabe time that could be more profitably spent on other matters, such as getting a life that's worthy of remark.

I take it back, OP. It sounds as if you and your dh are ideally suited.

I don't fb, but in what world would the inanity of this, let alone the tmi, be something you'd share with other people? FFS!

Missing the point. As well as the banality of updates, Facebook is also a convenient communication tool, as (some) people have the world and their wife on their friendliest, so it's quicker and easier to chuck a 60 second change of plan update on there for everyone to see.

Although not all party invitees may notice the update and turn up anyway.

And telling the world of your personal daily toilette is bog standard practice anyway. (I did a joke!)

If I told the world my 35 Facebook friends that DH had the shits, he wouldn't care. If I said he had an upset tummy, he'd go ballistic!

I hope he doesn't read mumsnet or he's going to be even more pissed off that we now all know ;-)

I have a Facebook account but I can't imagine why you'd announce his state of health to everyone. If you'd set the party up as a group event you could have just said he was unwell, but since you contacted the intended guests anyway your public update seems unnecessary and self indulgent to me. I agree with your husband. He seems to have some understanding of how adults behave.