When I met my husband 10years ago his wife of 35 had sadly died and he had 2 boys and I have 2 girls from my previous marriage all same ages, we all hit it off really well and 10years on still do, we all live together. Our eldest is 21yrs and youngest is 16. The only problem we have is my husbands parents. When we met he told me that he doesn't really have a family as his mum and dad aren't close to him, although they used to come to see the boys and his late wife and my husband when he returned from work every Saturday. My husbands late wife used to find it a tie and complained but continued nevertheless. When I came on the scene quite quickly after my husbands wife died his parents continued coming but this came increasingly difficult as with 4 children's different activities. Things began to get tense as they keep trying to interfere with the boys interests and my washing etc. why i say interfere is because I was never really asked my opinion, they just did it. My husbands dad is his step dad but my husband looks upon him as his real dad always has done, calls him dad. We have had a few arguments in the past with the major one being some time ago, saturdays were discussed and calling before they came so i was dressed and ready rather than just turning up. my husband did say to his mum that she doesnt care about him to which she didnt reply. His dad said in anger after my husband walked out of the meeting to calm down, he just like his dad and i said he loves you a lot. It seems his parents still have not moved on with the death of his late wife, they mentioned they thought we were seeing each other before his wife did, I said certainly not and I have the proof on the computer in our loft of our conversation to which they still didn't believe me. To the present day we just invite his parents over for birthdays, Mother's Day and events to which they come always bring presents to all the children but do make a much bigger fuss over the boys in front of the girls. This is the first year since 10years together they haven't come to us for Xmas day as they were going away. As the boys are older the eldest drives so there is no need to come to our house, they just invite them over. I was most disappointed that they didn't even come over with the Xmas presents they asked their grandson to collect them. Hope you have a rough background. The last east problems is its my husbands dads 70th birthday and they have telephoned their grandsons and asked them to a birthday meal with friends if theirs. They haven't invited their son (my husband) or even mentioned it to him, he says he doesn't care and he told me when we first met he wasn't close, I know he does really. I'm really close to my parents and have spoken to my mum about it who says don't worry about it just don't invite them to anything in the future as clearly they don't really want to be there. I don't know what to do, if anything and what the future holds, any advice gravely appreciated or questions if u need to know further information