My DH and I havent had a great year together, although our DD was born, we also have DS (3), DH has been solitary, sorry for himself,insecure,depressed has had couselling with some success, has had job worries but now has been offered a new one, problems with his DD (12) and her mother, his mother etc etc. I am sympathetic and tried to support him although he works long hours so i manage the house and children etc. What i find frustrating is he stays up all night surfing internet, watching tv, playstation etc, drinks most nights then during weekends etc is always tired and not interested in me the children or the house, when his DD is here for the weekend he will often nap for the afternoon, feels like he is opting out of family life and ive mentioned to him lots of times it makes me unhappy. Anyhow i recently discovered he has been texting a woman who was in his phone as Julian i called the number andit is a woman's voicemail, when i asked him who it was he said a bloke he met at a concert i told him to stop lying and didnt speak to him until christmas day and then basically for the childrens sake. he has said sorry and it was just a stupid flirting thing and nothing else, he deleted the history and content of texts so i dont know what to believe. He toldme he told her to never contact him again but i just dont know if i can trust him any more i just feel i've had a gutfull really, dont know what to do, any advice?