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He is a complete Sh*t - there I've said it

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Lonecatwithkitten · 27/12/2012 10:55

ExH announced in April he was having an affair, after leading me on for two months pretending he was trying when in fact he was still seeing OW he left on 30th June.
He has put DD(9) through hell she is having to understand the fact that OW is having a relationship with him and still living with her husband. OW's DD has physically and emotionally bullied DD.
He wants to control everything I think we agree childcare etc and then he goes and changes it.

I have worked Christmas so DD and I had planned to have our Christmas next week we were both happy with this. He then tries to mess with our arrangement, but doesn't get his own way.
I religiously have passed on his post because so far he has not changed his address on anything. The most it is 7 days before he gets it. We had a buy to let flat together which he now has, the tenant changed her number in the summer which she texted to me I passed it on to him then deleted.
Christmas morning he phones demanding her number as he has just opened 3 months worth of post and found the tenant has not paid her rent for two months and wants her number. I calmly explain I no longer have it as I don't need it and he gets really arsy he's changed his phone (I have twice due to iphone down toilet incident).
I am not picking up these pieces he needs to sort this out and all the other stuff he hasn't done. I have had legal advice and now I am going to act on it. Solicitors letters will dropping on his door mat come the new year. I have been polite, but it stops now. He has made his bed and he now needs to lie in it.

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Yama · 27/12/2012 10:58

Good for you LoneCat. Have a lovely Christmas with your dd next week.

May 2013 be a better year for you.

MissyRain · 27/12/2012 11:01

Good for you and about bloody time women. You are not his fucking Mother.

He is a grown man and you are not responsable for him.

Return all post to sender and only contact him about dd.

Give him back all his stuff or charge him for storage.

You need to set boundries and stick to them.

Good luck for new year xx

VBisme · 27/12/2012 11:14

He's had plenty of time to change his address, I agree "return to sender".
He can pay to get his mail redirected. Let him do that.
Stupid man doesn't realise how easy you were making everything for him. He'll realise once it stops. Grin

Lueji · 27/12/2012 13:43

Definitely return to sender.

And surely he has the tenant's address?

He should be going there or sending her written reminders.

And good on you to keep to your arrangements.

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