Just that - please advise how you manage it? I really don't want to gi back on anti-ds as don't think that is the answer. DH and I both have toxic families - I really feel that I would be a better person and parent if I had NC but that would affect my DC and DP which is totally unfair.
Please advise your coping strategies? Not so much as a phone call from either set of our parents to our DC (including poorly babys first xmas) yesterday and that is when we have been on good terms and totally graciously accepted them blowing out our christmas invite to spend it with our resprctive siblings (we are NC with his siblings long story but much to do with therm being narcisstic beyond stomaching and his parents playing them off against each other I think sadly) and my sibling having moved a six hour druve away and insisting my parents spend every xmas with them as she needs then to babysit while they run their and her in laws business on xmas day. I can understand this but as I was made to feel like I was interferring when I rang my sib night before last (when saying goodbye I said Id call again xmas eve wad told ' ummm xmas day we're busy tomorrow' I thought leave it and they can call when convenient on xnas day and not a fucking sausage from them or my oarents.
My DH is obvoiously a better person than I as he rang his but they couldnt wait to get off the phone and did not speak to the kids.
It sounds unbelievebly petty but I just want to run away from them whilst simultaneously wishing they gave more of a shit