He kicked us out three days before Christmas

[WhatARubbishChristmas]

I don't know what I am looking for by posting here, but I feel so sad. After yet another argument, my other half kicked me, and therefore also our 9 week old baby, out on Saturday. He told me he'd had enough, he wasn't coming with us to my parents for Christmas, and told us to get out. We left in a cab at midnight. The following day I had to get on an aeroplane on my own with the baby. And now we are here at my parents, and I am desperately trying to keep it together but I keep crying. It's all so rubbish. I hate that he isnt here, he means the world to us and I cant believe he has done this to us. To top it off I have a really nasty tissue lump from the birth and it has expanded and gone extremely painful over the past couple of days. I know I will have to go and have it burnt off when I get back but that doesn't help me right now... Aaargh. What a shitty Christmas.

9 week old baby on the streets at christmas [shocked]

I dont believe in hell and damnation but for someone like him i almost wish it was true. Twat

Stay by your parents as you will need family support to raise a child if it is possible. They could help with childcare? Where has the best schools?

There is a lot to consider dont rush any discusions and take a few days to think things thru.

Fouce on your son and the life you want for both of you.

Run as far and as fast as you can away from this loser.

Do not make your child suffer abuse by this man if you go back to him.

Technically I'm sure he can't kick us out but that is a little bit difficult to argue when he screams "Get Out!" in the middle of the night

If you rent a place together and your name is on the tenancy agreement, it doesn't matter who pays for it - he can't kick you out and if he screams 'Get Out' in the middle of the night, call the police and let them remove him argue it for you.

So, have I read this right... you're planning to take your 9wo back to the town you left even though you have nowhere to go when you get there?

Do you intend to use the police to reinstall you in the property that you are legally and lawfully entitled to occupy?

Well no, I don't think it will come to that. The issue of where we are going to live will get resolved in some way or another, I'm sure. Either we'll go back in to the house and he will have to go elsewhere, or we'll rent elsewhere, or we'll stay with relatives for a while and get something new down the line. It hasn't been discussed yet but I guess it will after Christmas. A much, much greater concern to me is the emotional knowledge that my boy has a dad that would do this sort of shitty thing, and that we will never have the kind of family unit that I envisioned for him. I've lost my partner. My boy has in some ways lost his daddy. If I'm fair I guess I knew this day would come, our relationship was not great, but that doesn't make it any easier. And I hate the shitty way in which he did it.

You can make a happy family life for your boy, lots of single parents do. It probably all sounds too hard now, but you will be able to do it for him.

He hasn't necessarily lost his father, but only his father can determined that side of things now. All you can do is facilitate contact between them, and I urge you to do that however you personally feel about him!

Such a shitty thing to happen to you both, wishing you strength!

I'm sure others have said the same but it's better he showed his true colours whilst your dc was too young to remember. It also sounds like you have a supportive family. Unfortunately people don't always turn out to be nice

OP I have an 8 week old DS. I know what you mean about your partner meaning the world to you, in this rollercoaster emotional post-birth state I would feel the same way about my OH no matter what he did.

My DH says that he wants to grab your partner with both hands and shake him and yell at him for doing this to you and your baby.

What he did to you is fundamentally wrong to you and your baby. At least you have some support in the form of your parents right now. Your DS does not know what has happened so just focus on loving him - this beautiful perfect boy you brought into the world. You do not need a partner (and an arsehole one at that) to give him a secure loving upbringing.

Please just cuddle and love your lovely boy right now. Wise and wonderful MNers will come and give you practical and legal advice but I just want to hold your hand right now.

Here's something to look forward to: the next time your little boy smiles at you. Isn't it wonderful? He's telling you that everything is ok and perfect to him as long as his mummy loves him