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Lets say some NICE things about relations.......

19 replies

Allergictoironing · 24/12/2012 18:52

So many threads about toxic relationships, bastard controlling & abusive partners, thoughtlessness. So I thought it might be a good idea to have one where we can say nice things about people, those who've gone out of their way to do good things for us.

I'll start it off with my sister (Hi if you read this thread). I'm single, been out of work for ages & rapidly running out of money, and been getting very depressed about the job situation. My DSis is a single mother with 1 young & 1 adult DS at home, coping with a part time job while recovering from severe depression brought on by her bastard ExH.

How they celebrate Xmas & how I like to are a little different, however she's opened her home to me this year even though that makes it an extra one to cater for when money is tight & they don't really have the room for an extra large adult (especially as a 3rd DS is home for the holidays). She's making sure there's plenty of food that I like, and though she knows I can't afford any gifts for her & her DSs this year I know she's bought me some. She's gone out of her way to let me feel involved. My much beloved ancient Godmother had to go into hospital on Friday, and my lovely DSis has rearranged Xmas dinner so I can visit the Godmother in the hospital which is a fair drive away, and still eat with them.

Over the last few months she's always been there to calm my nerves before an interview, or just let me ramble on for ages when I'm getting really depressed & helped me get out of that awful pit of despondency.

In this season of goodwill, I'd like to say how much this has been appreciated - I know we have our spats but I don't know what I'd do without her.

So lets here it from a few more of you who have people in their lives who make all the difference in the RIGHT way!

OP posts:
FiveFestiveFlowers · 24/12/2012 19:13

That's lovely Allergic. So good to hear a positive story about family members.

Graceparkhill · 24/12/2012 19:47

My sister is great - has been a huge support to me this year. Always look forward to seeing her.

Also have 2 lovely SILs and 3 amazing BILs.

They never forget a birthday and are always generous to DS1 & DS2.

Shakey1500 · 24/12/2012 19:53

Another one for a sister here.

She really is absolutely awesome. We had a shit chidhood and she's also like a mother figure as well as an utterly cool older sister.

It's fair to say she has always been there for me, despite having a hectic life herself (2 dc's now adults, FT job, divorce etc)

When I was 26 she already had her two children and is mother earth personified, complete opposite of me. I accidentally fell pregnant and knew instantly I couldn't go through with the pregnancy (long story). Even though it went against every fibre of her being she supported me unconditionally and held my hand every step of the way.

I now have a son aged 5 and she's a terrific Aunty and always gives the best advice without being in any way patronising.

I love her more than I can ever say Grin

NoImSpartacus · 24/12/2012 23:36

Your sister sounds fab OP! My sister is also amazing, she's my best friend, always there for me and I would be utterly lost without her. I can't wait to spend Christmas with her and my gorgeous nephews. I count my lucky stars every day that I have a sister like her Xmas Grin

Anniegetyourgun · 24/12/2012 23:44

Uh-oh, sounds like you got the Christmas spirit after all, Allergic (nearly too late this year!). I know your sister IRL though, so never mind all that mushy stuff, she also slams the phone down on you when you get bored, lectures you on your "wrong" politics, and refused to have turkey for Christmas dinner. Just another flawed human being, I'm afraid. (They're the best kind.)

Anniegetyourgun · 24/12/2012 23:44

When SHE gets bored, I mean.

izzyizin · 25/12/2012 00:30

It's amazing what a seasonal jug of eggnog can do. I vote we drink it all year round Xmas Grin

Feckthehalls · 25/12/2012 01:01

all my family and my Dhs family are pretty wonderful

BOFingSanta · 25/12/2012 01:05

Oh, great idea for a thread! My family are all lovely- I'm very very lucky.

Piemother · 25/12/2012 01:24

I'm v grateful for my made if granite mum for looking after me this year even though my marriage breakdown was v close to the bone for her and I feel v guilty. We have had some fab times this year though (that couldn't be spoiled or interfered with by twit exh). I splurged for her birthday and even she said her big birthday next year couldn't be topped by my treats this year! Grin

Secondly my local to here friends have been there hell and high water this year. I couldn't ask for a bunch of funnier, smarter or more loyal women (and their other halves). I have learned so much about real friendship. More in the last 3 years since I met them all than in the rest of my adult life. Thank you x

Sunnywithachanceofjinglebells · 25/12/2012 01:40

I'm grateful for my MIL. We're spending tomorrow with her and she's lovely. She and I come from hugely different backgrounds but we have a great relationship. She's intelligent and generous and thoughtful.

My DM and DSD haven't always been the best parents but they'd do anything for me.

My DSis who literally opened her home to me when my abusive XH was on the scene. She and my DBIL gave me keys so I could let myself in, for which I will always be grateful.

My DB who supports me whatever I do.

I'm also grateful for the amazing peeps on MN, you are the best.

bestsonever · 25/12/2012 02:15

I am a single mother and sole provider for my son. I work full time and awkward shifts that I could not manage but for the help of my family. Recently my job was put in jeopardy. Totally unexpected and out of the blue one day my DB told me that if I got made redundant I would still never lose my house as he would not let that happen and would help me out with the mortgage if necessary. Totally astounded by that, parents were generally tight and not that emotional and would not recognize a person in need. He said it with true love and feeling and we get closer as the years pass, despite at times finding it hard to show feeling due to our upbringing I think.
Also, as my name says, I feel I am blessed every day by my lovely, bright, intelligent son who is fantastic although he receives far less input from his busy mum than he ought to and has been the most trouble-free, easy to look after child I can imagine. Unconditional love makes the world a better place.

blackcurrants · 25/12/2012 02:32

I'm expecting a baby (DS2, 3 days late so far) who has hydronephrosis. We won't know, till he is born, what kinds of procedures will be done to him in the first 12 hours of his life, but even thermos benign of them will involve things you don't want to imagine happening to your newborn, like IV lines going in.

My big sister had to go through hell with her DD being very poorly when she was tiny(2 years ago now) and in the last few weeks she has been my rock ... she has got plenty on her plate and we live on.different continents but she has made a huge effort to talk to me about it and support me. She is bloody amazing and I go into these next few days and weeks braver and better prepared thanks to her.
Wine Due to both of us being expats in different countries I haven't seen her for .2 years and we aren't best best friends, but I am so, so grateful for her support and love. She's been a good sister to me recently.

GreatCongas · 25/12/2012 21:33

Spent the day at my lovely inlaws

Feeling a bit down now as I miss my wonderful family

Lueji · 25/12/2012 22:02

DS and I had a lovely day at my parents' with my DSis and DBro and their families.
The children have similar ages and get on great.
We all shared tasks, and took food.

They have been very supportive, particularly since separating from evil ex.

The only sad note was that DSis' MIL, who was also there, got sick, and we were a bit worried, but there were two doctors in the house, so she was well taken care of. :o

DP got DS a fantastic gift.

GlitterGlitterEverywhere · 25/12/2012 22:11

I've had a lovely day with my parents, Dsis, BIL and niece and nephew. Loved watching everyone open the presents I had bought them, and spending quality time with my DSis, who is my best friend and closest ally. Now chilling out with DVDs and feeling incredibly grateful that my family are so wonderful!

LemonDrizzled · 25/12/2012 23:20

I have spent Christmas Eve and Christmas morning with my Ex making things special for our DC. After all the hell we put each other through splitting up after 28 years I am so relieved that he is being a good dad and a kind and friendly co-parent. I expect he feels the same about me! Thank ExH - it was an unexpected gift - and I think the DC all enjoyed the festivities more with us there united for them.

KatieScarlett2833 · 26/12/2012 12:27

One for my lovely parents and in laws who have arranged for us all (and paid) to go on a fancy cruise in July. Best Christmas gift ever Grin

financialwizard · 26/12/2012 14:12

I want to nominate my PIL. We got off to a rocky start, but since we moved near them they have been amazing.

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