hello, I'm new here. I am trying to understand the following. I know that it seems minor but lots of similar things happen, on a daily basis, and this is just an example. I really need someone from outside our relation ship to tell me whether it is him or me.
I asked my partner to help clear some piles of garden rubbish that I had created. I said that I found it all a bit daunting as there was so much and asked him to help. Most was small stuff, one pile was big stuff which would not fit into the green bin. He said that this was disgraceful and appalling behaviour on my part. He said that he though this because he said that I was expecting him to deal with the stuff that wouldn't fit in the bin. This made me feel as if I was in the wrong but I can't work out if I am or not.
This happens all the time. I keep doing things which seem reasonable to me, or possibly minorly wrong, but which he describes as disgraceful, appalling, etc etc.